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Can't get over my ex

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bridgetjonesbutworse · 24/12/2017 11:51

I am so unbearably depressed and heartbroken and can't seem to get over it

I'm 20 years old, I had my son when I was 17. Me and his dad aren't together but have a great friendship and my son stays with him every other weekend.
Everyone thought I'd cocked up my life when I had him but low and behold I got into uni, got a job, a lovely home and then around 18 months ago fell in love with the most wonderful person. It was like a dream come true.
Me, my son and my new partner really had a lovely family life. I was so happy.
Then, three months ago, my boyfriend left me.
He moved into a student house with 10 girls, he started taking drugs and drinking and later I found out sleeping around. I found out I was pregnant shortly after we split and he begged me to have an abortion (he was awful, called me all the names under the sun) in the end I decided I couldn't do it, so we went no contact and I prepared for single motherhood to two kids.

He then reappeared in my life about two month ago saying he was reformed, he had his life together, wanted to be involved with new baby and wanted to give us another try. So we did and it was wonderful until I found out he gave me chlamydia because he'd been having unprotected sex with a load of girls whilst we weren't together though had told me he hadn't slept with anyone else. He was very apologetic and I, being the fool that I am, just accepted his apology.

He's now said in the last couple of weeks he doesn't want to be with me, he's reverted back to being the arsehole he was when we first broke up. He is irresponsible, mean, narcisstic and I am utterly heartbroken.

He is awful and I am still disgustingly in love with him.

What am I going to do. How will I ever stop being in love with him and why do I love him so much when he is so horrid

OP posts:
bridgetjonesbutworse · 24/12/2017 11:56

Also he still wants contact with the baby (I'm now 25 weeks) which I'm very happy about for the baby but he is such a horrible person to me. Doesn't care how much stuff he does/says upsets despite the fact I'm carrying his daughter. Makes it unbearable. The situation with my 3 YO's dad is so calm and nice and friendly. Yet with this guy it's just horrible. What kind of environment is this going to be for baby. I can put my feelings behind me about her dad even though it hurts but why does he need to treat me like shit.

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userxx · 24/12/2017 12:09

You sound a very level headed woman for someone so young, you can do this alone. I have no idea why he is acting like such a twat and neither should you waste your energy trying to work him out. You will eventually fall out of love with him, especially if he keeps acting this way. Don't give him another chance.

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