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Getting through Christmas

5 replies

Custard4rhubarb · 24/12/2017 09:51

Hi,

I had a thread a while back under a different name and had some fantastic advice about how to handle the situation I find myself in.

I put that advice into action and explained to my husband how I felt his behaviour was impacting on me and the children. He tried to change.

However I feel like we have reached a point where I have to make a decision. He cannot change some of his behaviour, he can't change what the illness has done to him. Our relationship has fundamentally been changed. We had a really difficult and frank discussion a couple of weeks ago and we both agreed relationship counselling will help us work through what happens next.

But before we have Christmas and a birthday. He is talking about future plans to the house and seems perfectly happy. I on the other hand am watching all of this wondering if this is our last Christmas together like this feeling desperately sad. I think I know what the outcome of the counselling is likely to be.

I feel so sad, any advice?

OP posts:
Custard4rhubarb · 24/12/2017 10:00

Oops name change fail...so previous thread was under this name

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Custard4rhubarb · 25/12/2017 16:22

Shit, unbearably sad. Anyone got any advice? Never thought this would be me

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rumred · 25/12/2017 17:25

I'm sorry you're feeling so sad. Distraction is often the best option in an unbearable situation. Plan what you want to do next week, next year etc. Think about a holiday. Watch a good film. (Shit ones are no help whatsoever)
Washing cleaning etc....

Custard4rhubarb · 25/12/2017 17:57

Thankyou, certainly better ideas than just getting drunk which was my only idea

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RandomMess · 25/12/2017 18:17

Thanks no words really distraction does help during the day though.

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