Advice needed..son short term memory affected.

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Brief history 9 days ago 17 year old son suffered fits and was diagnosed with viral meningitis . He is being treated at home 3 times a day with iv antibiotics His life is currently based around visits and TV and a few friends .Girlfriend been brilliant however thus evening massive row\ tension as she arrived stressed due to journey to us ..massive rows all evening ..she sat in her car outside as its too late for her to go home. Had massive scared tears from son . He he gone to talk to her ..force his way into get car. They are chatting ..she knows they both need space ..He just can't remember things . so worried. I failed both of them and she no nearer going home to stop this ..I can't leave them too it but I an making son more stressed

Priority is your son's wellbeing.
Bed the girl friend down in your house
Reassure son
Give them space
Missy girlfriend needs advised how unwell your son has been and how he needs peace and rest.
Not too many visitors for son in meantime- he is probably terribly scared by memory loss- it should improve but stress won't help
Then she needs packed off home with a hug.
You haven't failed anyone.

She's 17 It's too much for her to shoulder, very kindly send her home.

force his way into get car

Seriously? He forced his way into her car?

That's not on.

I hope all is settling down now and that his girlfriend is somewhere safe but you need to make clear to him that if she said she didn't want to talk to him, he should respect that. And he certainly shouldn't force his way into wherever she's taken herself to feel safe.

Resolved of sort they have gone there own way..she did leave ..The stress isn't good for any one ..He needs to talk face to face can't do texting or phone as needs facial expression .she did go home but she needed to get last word in .. Girlfriend text this morning her mum told her she was in the wrong . She is aware of the whole picture but like him can't handle it .. Both too young and I am so tired. . off to get some sleep. .