He's being a goady today probably because I went out last night

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Keeps on staring at me, and giving me dirty looks all morning and he's really angry with me. I'm sure it's because I went out last night, and he no longer has control over me.

Why is the blame so important, why does it alsways have to be someone fault even when it really isn't? He's badgers me till I take that little box of f**king blame

How do I get out of the relationship? Housing is the problem.

I think I'm waiting for someone to save me, it I can only save myself. Bit I don't know how.

What's your housing situation

Joint tenants unfortunately, cost of renting equals my wages round here, however I would get tax credit and other benefits but the housing agency won't allow them as income as I don't currently receive them.

Could you do a house share? Thats what I do.

Do you have kids or do you just need a place for yourself?

Know exactly what you mean. Am prof woman who met a friend last night and was home by nine. Staring and called me a pleasure seeker? What the hell? Bloody losers just laughed at him. Don't take the bait.

2 Children, he keeps telling me he'll get residency of them and they prefer him to me.

My aniexty is currently through the roof. Nothing I do is good enough or enough, while he just sits on his arse moaning

Remember, this is about him not you. You deserve to go out. This is normal. His reaction is not. Take care of you.

You went out. So! Why would he get residency?

Would you not get housing benefit?

Sorry the residency issues is because I have asked him previously to leave, I've really had enough of his lazy, selfish, woe is me attitude, tbh he barely washes and won't clean up after himself. He's moody and apparently I'm the one with the problem.

I've had enough of walking on eggs shells.

he won't leave and he hates that he's loosing control over me. Years ago I wouldn't have go out. So he's annoyed however he can't say that as he knows how unreasonable he would sound.

Yes to housing benefit, however finding someone who would take it is a different matter

I was in a v similar situation. Now v happy, mostly, 2 years on without him. So relieved to only need to have anything to do with him via the kids. Pm me if you'd like some practical advice on how to do it. All the very best

Ps I should add, no new partner, left and have done it all on my own.

Ok best bit of advise someone ever told me:

Don’t take legal advise off your abuser. He will not get residency and is saying that to further abuse and control you

My ex did said- well said he would get 50/50 from when he was tiny so I complied with his requests for contact as I was scared that he would and it wouldn’t be in his interests.

Don’t ever listen to or believe a word he said about any subject to do with family law

Good luck