Why does my ex act like this?

[wrinkleddwarf]

I'm 24 weeks pregnant and not with the father of the baby but we meet up regularly to try and have a civil relationship and all that jazz.

I'm trying really hard to be friends with him but he is so annoying. He gets me in headlocks, pushes me, burps in my face (he never hurts me it's all just acting childish)
I ask him to stop and he continues to do it. Every time we meet he's like this. He takes nothing seriously and just acts like a child.

Why the hell has he gone from being a fairly mature person when we were together to acting like the worlds most annoying child? It's like a personality transplant

He’s a dickhead.

Sounds like a primary school version of flirting to me. Silly bloke

That's not flirting; it's abusive. Tell him to stop and if he reuses to, stop meeting up with him. If someone manhandled me, and burped in my face I'd not make another appointment to see them... If they hurt me, or my inborn child I'd get the police involved.

And you had sex with him?

He wasn't like this when we were together 😩

Who ended the relationship and how long ago?

He may still have feelings for you...doesn't know how to act as a friend and panics and does stupid things...? Or is he like this with his friends...?

Don’t bother until you actually have a baby. He is adding precisely nothing to your life. Yuck.

Or hes doing it to put you in the friend box. Because it would be hard to go from being partners to friends when you have the baby growing in you too. Some people react weirdly when they feel confused abiut their emotions... hes trying too hard ti be blokey to stop there being any remontic feelings ...?

Stop meeting him

State how you expect him to behave and if he doesn't have nothing to do with him.
Headlock on a pregnant woman! Abuse

Yeah short answer I reckon he's hurting about the relationship being over and he doesn't know what to do, so he's defaulting to 12 year old boy at the school gates idiot behaviour.

Not very pleasant for you and not a sign of him being especially emotionally mature. Which he'll need to be - he's about to become a Dad. When he tries it next time say clearly and loudly 'Don't do that - I don't like it" and the moment he persists, end the time together and don't schedule any more. He'll get the message.

He broke up with me a couple of months ago and has expressed how much he doesn't want to get back together. I thought maybe he's just terrified about the baby? That's one of the reasons we still meet really, to prepare him more for the baby so we can talk about it all and he can prepare himself. But it's impossible when he acts like this.

When I tell him to stop he says he's only messing around. And I guess I wanted to know AIBU, am I just being boring and putting a block on our friendship but I think it's clear from the responses its just not pissing normal

In that case yanbu to be pd off! Tell him to stop it and if he cant stop just see him for important appointments and baby related activities

Ah, okay. Perhaps he's being passive aggressive then. You're sort of dancing round arranging the meets and trying to stay in touch and he doesn't have the balls to tell you he's not keen so he acts like a dick as a way of conveying that? maybe pull back and see how bothered he is without you helping/enabling him by arranging to meet up all the time.

Oh my goodness, he sounds gross. You’re 24 weeks and he pushes you?

Jesus, is he 13?

No, I think you need to do one of two things - either tell him to stop touching you or just cut contact right down to important things.

And once baby is around you also don't need to be present for contact. He can take them out for short periods (if you're breastfeeding for example) or you can busy yourself in another room.

It's really only her he needs to have a relationship with, not you! :) Don't feel you need to spend time you don't feel like spending with him.

I think he is pushing you around under the guise of messing about because he is very angry with you. Don't see him any more. You can't be around a man who treats you like this, especially when pregnant.

That’s not friendly behaviour or having a laugh. That’s resentment and annoyance, he doesn’t want the responsibility of a child and he’s abusing you. If he tries to “play fight” with you again, you need to put an absolute stop to it. He’s using this to control you and put you in your place. Don’t let him manhandle you, OP, he is not ‘your mate’.

Eh? Why are you bothering with him? He burps in your face, gets you in a headlock, pushes you around in public.... these are all ways to disrespect and humiliate you. And “jokily” or not, getting you in a headlock is physical abuse. What must people think when they see this moron treating a pregnant woman like that?!

I’d stop contacting him or meeting up with him and prepare to have this baby on your own with your family and friends around you with support because he is as good as useless.

I couldn't be dealing with such stupid behaviour...I'd give a final warning and tell him if it happens once more...there'll be no more meetings and I'll notify him when the baby is born and sort out child support and visitation.

I don't suffer fools gladly unfortunately.

I agree with the comments above. Men who behave like this are either "flirting" very clumsily as an excuse to get close to you (really didn't seem to be the case here from what you've written) or subtly punishing you without actually going as far as hurting you, sui he can say you are overreacting if you object.
He didn't want the baby so he is punishing and humiliating you. This world be offensive behaviour towards anyone but even more appalling as you're pregnant.
Just stop seeing him. Claim through the CSA or whatever its called now one the baby is born.
Good luck with everything OP.

Stop seeing him.

Stop seeing him.

That's rank, why would you put up with that from anyone, especially if you don't even have to see him?!

Don't see him until he can act appropriately