Drink driving!

[xmassucks]

Background partner and I have a DC which we share. Do not live together (long story). Last night he got in the car with our DS and drove home after having had a skinful. I was furious and when I couldn't get hold of him I rang his parents as I thought something awful had happened . Now they have all turned on me. Bastards

You have every right to phone the police if you know someone is drink driving. Especially if they're doing so with your child in their car. It's probably no good now but I'd still phone the local police and log it even if there's nothing they can do.

You wouldn't be out of order stopping your DP from driving your DC about ever again. He's a grade A selfish twat for taking such a stupid risk and his parents are dickheads for covering for him.

I was going to say another time, go straight to the police but on second thoughts - don't let there be another time.

His parents have told him I was hateful when I called them to see if they had heard from him. I was damn angry, didn't know what to do and I had called the police who couldn't actually do anything. They have all turned on me now and are making it out to be my fault somehow. Never mind the fact he was drink driving with a child in the car. He wasn't just over the limit either, he was completely intoxicated! Could have killed someone, idiot.

That would be game over for me. I would not leave my child again in the care of anyone who would do something so reckless.

There's a whole drink driving campaign asking people to call 999 if they know someone is drink driving; why couldn't they do anything?

I hate to be blunt but you need to stop giving a toss what they think about you and what they're saying. That's not the point here. The point is that your DP put the life of your child at very great risk. Frankly I'd be doing my fucking nut and banning him from having unattended contact for a while. That ought to be your focus here.

I am going to seriously have to consider the future now. I cannot believe that he and his family are making me look the bad one here. Absolutely shocking behaviour from all of them.

So I assume he's now your ex and contact is limited because he is not safe?

I used to work with a child who was paralyzed because of a drunk driver. Her dad and sister were killed. I have a zero tolerance policy for it.

I could not countenance this. It would be game over and he would no longer be allowed to see the DC. Let him go through court for access but do not allow him to see DC for the foreseeable future.

How old is your DC and how do you know what he had to drink?

Dump him, and don't allow him unsupervised access to the children for many years.

He sounds like an inconsiderate and ignorant arsehole.

There WILL be a next time unless you ensure otherwise. I’ve lived with this. Don’t take any crap from him or his family.

Why did the police not do anything? I'm astonished.

You're right to be outraged, by the way. There's no way on earth that was acceptable behaviour.

Today is the anniversary of when I was the victim a drink drive car wreck. I could have died and now don't tolerate it at all. Your partner is reckless and selfish.