Anyone got any positive stories after always meeting the wrong man. I need cheering up!

[MidnightStars]

So basically I always meet the wrong guy. The player type or non committed type. My last ex was emotionally abusive and the ones before him lasted a max of 2 years. I just feel like I'm destined not to meet the man for me.

I've just broke it off with a guy I was dating because he was messing me around. He Seemed un interested in the last week after chasing after me for a while. He kept me hanging in the end I just called it a day with him. Where am I going wrong?

Can anyone give me some positive stories and show me I'm not doomed for a future of idiots

Hi @MidnightStars I have no advice or success stories as I've literally just (in the last few days) left my controlling / emotionally abusive bf. Watching this thread this interest as I'm in need of some cheering up. X

zoo I'm sorry to hear. Hope you're ok! Hopefully some people will have some positive stories x

Well this isn't looking to promising with the positive stories!!

You will get some I’m sure! It’s the run up to Christmas so people are probably busy.

My positive story (after a lifetime of picking partners who either have been diagnosed BPD or who probably should be) is that I am really really happy with myself just being on my own. I can’t imagine ever bothering with another relationship TBH and I’m wholly and completely satisfied with my life as a single person!

After telling my man - child dh to move out after financial abuse, and I already had enough dc, I had given up also.
Met a stranger in a pub and we have not had a single night apart since that night!! 5 years ago, now married with a toddler!!
Life can indeed take strange turns when you least expect them!!

Everyone dates wrong ones. You sound like you think they lasted for too short a time (max 2 years). I think they almost certainly lasted too long.

Make this the year of expecting short relationships. Dump at the first or second red flag don't wait around for the first hundred flags. You will never meet the prince if you are wasting time with toads.

It could be a brilliant year for you.

It sounds so obvious now, but it genuinely hadn't occurred to me until my mum pointed it out, that if I kept picking the same sort of men, I'd keep having the same sort of problems (lying, cheating, trying to cheat with my friends, cocklodging, stealing etc). I was adamant that each man had been completely different from the last, until I realised that they only looked different and had different tastes. Each was selfish, unkind and I ignored a million red flags.

I'm now sat next to the love of my life. My lovely DH who is, quite simply, the best person I have ever met.