After the Dust settled....Midlife Cissis

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My Marriage ended nearly 2 years ago now and I'm getting on fine and happy settled into a new calmer and better life post long marriage.

What I'm interested to know or hear is anybody else been through this awful difficult time to realise that life has turned out so much better for you the betrayed spouse and the exdh not so happy....did they go on to have a happier life/relationship or did it all come crashing down ?

All very light hearted but its always interesting to hear how other peoples ex's have faired after blowing up the lives of their families did they make a massive mistake or was it all worth it.

Merry Christmas x

I’ve been divorced now for 5 years... my exh has an affair which I forgave (6 months after our wedding) and lost it one evening and physically abused me so I kicked him out.

The physical abuse was a 1 off, but I could never get over his affair. I’m now living with an amazing bloke who sites on my kids and I’m a world away from the miserable, make do person I was years ago. I’m happy and content. He on the other hand is going through women like it’s gojng out of fashion. Renting his 4th house in so many years, and miserable he does say to me now and again he wished he still had what he did before he fucked it up. My opinion is I’m glad he did fuck it up as I’m soooo much happier now, as are my kids

Mine ex seems happy as a pig in shit 5th Christmas alone ow 23 years younger although he looks haggered wearing skinny jeans converse looks like absolute idiot our son older than her actually feel sorry for him.Been really hard for children my daughter asked if my sister's family would come for Christmas so a real family again breaks my heart.They just look after themselves .its so hard not even done Christmas shopping cant face it .thought be over by now so painful .maybe one day they will realise sorry useless post

Five years post divorce here. Neither myself nor ex has met anyone else, not a serious thing anyway. Mind you it was a very messy divorce which went on a long time. I wish he had met someone straight after we split as it would have got him off my back. It's still quite sad really.

My life was blown to smitherines when he detonated the bomb on DDAY (16 months ago). I'm still picking up the pieces tbh. He on the other hand is living the dream with the younger OW. No responsibility, no kids to look after. Life not fair.

I don't think my exh plans worked out for him, his happy ever after is him now moving to a place thats cheap to rent where he doesn't know anyone and about 150 miles away from his DS.
We had a beautiful home we sold and he has wasted all his money on drinking, holidays and his new gf...silly man.

OW's son is a nightmare and lashes out at random people and very poorly behaved..he isn't used to that sort of behaviour.
Our DS is a lovely respectful young man.

He is travelling 250 miles on Christmas day just for company and dinner.
Im surrounded by my family eating the meal he always said was the best christmas dinner ever...it doesn't sound good does it.

I really don't think lifes a bowl of cherries now. Bless him.

Now heres the silly thing..i feel guilty writing this and gloating.

He is probably happy as Larry and thats just my take on the situation lol