Im in a tough situation, and really I should have changed my name for this in case dp looks, but oh well.
Dp and I had a couple of arguements at the beginning of the week. Both arguements had my dd brought up, and Im slightly upset/confused over it. Dp isn't dd's father, which I know upsets him, as he realises dd will never be his.
Dd has been very loud this week. She was whinging a lot one day, and when she isnt whinging, shes usually screaming (good screaming that is). Dp got annoyed with all this, and went to "sulk" in my bedroom. I left it for about 10mins, and then went up to see him. He then told me he couldnt cope with it, and hated to be in my house because it was just noise noise noise. Other things he said were that dd isnt his, so he doesnt have to put up with it (which yeah is true but not a very nice thing to say); he thinks that dd will hate him when shes older because she'll think he's split up her mummy and daddy; he thinks she gives him funny looks, and he can sense that she doesnt like him.
i think he's just being silly, but i can understand his point of views, and i realise that he gets upset over stuff like this because he cares, and doesnt want to upset dd. Except for the bit where he was saying dd is really loud and it drives him crazy. Ive told him that compared to most kids, dd is a really good girl. I know someone who's ds cries most of the time and he is dd's age. its not as if she's always crying, and when she's screaming its just her way of saying she's enjoying herself as she cant talk yet. He hasnt been around children much, so I think that is why it annoys him so much.
Im not sure why Im posting this, I guess I would like to see what other peoples views are on this