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Twisted exes....

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Bells1234 · 21/12/2017 21:29

I'm just wondering if anyone else is labelled as the twisted jealous ex when that isn't the case??
My ex isn't allowed to see his 2 DC as it makes his wife upset 🤔🙄 he's contacted a couple times through the years- I say couple I do actually mean 2!!
Once he done it secretly through his mothers FB account another he done it on his own account, his wife went mad when she found out and he got a battering by her brothers!!! Anyhow can't say I feel sorry for him he needs to grow a pair!!
We spilt up 10 years ago so it's been a fair while!!
But now my eldest can access FB, he is 13 and I'd rather he done it so I can monitor but I'm Wondering what to do if he's contacted by either of them?!
I had a spat with his wife 3 years ago when she found out about him messaging me and she kept saying he's a great step dad and thinks more of them that his own, so I contacted CMS, after a month of not finding him he miraculously had started signing on!! But they received a letter saying he wants A DNA test 🤔 ( I spoke to him after this he was crying saying he's sorry he never asked for it and he knows they are his) Birth Certs was enough to get money- he was on them so that automatically accepts PR - but I don't want or need it and only done it cause she wound me up- so stopped the claim.
My problem is what do I say if they or more she contacts him??
I have no idea if they will be nice and polite happy family or just give him abuse?! I mean her not him- he's not allowed to do much alone!
The youngest has a couple of years yet-
When I say she is mental it's not an understatement, but as the ex I'm labelled the nutcase! But his family know the truth so that's a bonus I suppose

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PinkChestnut · 22/12/2017 09:29

At 13 you can and should monitor your sons Facebook and Internet use. Make sure you chat to him openly and listen to him so he feels comfortable telling you if he's contacted and wants advice.

Not letting her partner see his children due to her own insecurities is disgusting.

TheNaze73 · 22/12/2017 11:56

I don’t know who are worse? The spineless men who put up with this shit, or the insecure women who expect everyone to pander to them.

You’re better off without him OP

Eightbelles · 22/12/2017 13:52

I'm not on FB, but cant you block people on there? Maybe just do preventative action and block the insane woman and her family from contacting your son, if you can.

SandyY2K · 22/12/2017 14:29

Your Ex clearly has issues if he allows his wife to stop him seeing his children.

Was he always this spineless?

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