Should my dc see nc in laws?

[inmyshoos]

H and I split last year. He is now back in touch with his family who we had been 2nd with for 3 years. They have sent us vile letters and basically treated us like shit for years. H was always dead against any contact whilst we were together even when I suggested just allowing dc to invite their cousins to birthday parties etc.
Now h has decided to get back in touch (that is a whole other thread) his father is completely toxic and the mother has form for being nasty too. I don't really want my dc exposed to that but do I have a choice? If he is back in touch I can see the dc being used as a tool by him ie if he offers to bring dc to see them they will be nice to him and that's what he will want, esp from his father who he has a very difficult relationship with. Help! The though of it makes me feel sick

Not 2nd NC bloody phone.....

If he wants to get back in touch with his own abusive parents then that is up to him. Your children do not have to follow meekly in his wake.

Yes you do have a choice to say no, what has made you think otherwise?. Do not expose your children at all to his parents emotional manipulations. I would certainly formalise all contact arrangements on a legal footing with your H rather than have any informal arrangement.

Thanks for your reply Attila whole thing gives me the chills.
I know he will make a huge fuss about this. But he is such a coward around his father I don't trust him to protect our dc. He was like a different person around them and this was one of the reasons that led us to be nc with them originally.