I could write pages and pages but the short of it is that Ive learnt to recognise that DM is a narcasisst and i belive DB is too.
At a young age our parents seperated and DM parented DB and DF parented me. This year DF passed away, me and DH had our first baby (DD) and my grandad passed away (DMs father). So its been an emotional year to say the least but this hasnt stoped the hooving, gaslighting and constant typical narcassist behaviour its actually escalated. When DF passed i was the sole executor, but me and DB are both beneficiaries. Which has meant constant harassment for his share; its all in the solicitors hands, if i could give it to him now so he'd leave me alone I would. The other issue is that DM is also our landlord, but until DFs estate is settled we cannot afford to buy our own place.
Today at my grandads funeral was the last straw - DM calls me over and begins to (fake) cry about how much ive hurt her and it all needs to stop because lifes to short. I cant take it anymore and I refuse to let DD be exposed to it as she grows up.
Until DFs estate is settled Im stuck because I cant go down the NC route but I try to keep responses as minimal and unemotional as I can. But when I can block their numbers and emails Im still worried about them showing up at our door unannounced (even if we move at some point im sure theyll find out our address) or phoning off numbers i dont recognise. Do i have to just accept Ill have to stop answering the door and phone if I dont know who it is? I just cant take it anymore.