with my partner for 5 years and recently had a big falling out and he has moved out. the problem was he was taking cocaine every week and trying to hide it from me. he would be lazy and short tempered and I could tell. we are both in our 40's and I have 2 DC aged 19 and in their twenties still living at home. partner knew I had a zero tolerance to drugs especially with DC coming and going all hours and also mixing with our friends. I've also had a very difficult time last 4 years losing DM to cancer and my DF very ill with Parkinsons. partner would tell his mum that our disagreements were down to me being stressed (grieving) over my parents . I covered for his drug use that I believe was the main cause of our disagreements - usually because I felt I was doing the lion's share and had a lack of support. we live in my home that I bought and paid for and my partner did not lift his weight sufficiently or contribute as much as I did to the home. well since he moved out, all of his family have cut me and my children off, just like that. nothing. like we never even existed! I am so so sad. Surely his family would want him to be living a healthy life and not sticking coke up his nose every week and as he gets older risking stroke, heart problem, whatever... Surely they could see I just wanted him to clean up and grow up! I just don't get it!!!