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Hi all,
I've got a first date from OLD. We've spoken on phone. Got on well. We've been messaging.
Just wondered if anyone has positive stories of OLD.
TIA

Met my husband on okcupid over 6 years ago, married for 3. We couldn't be happier and it is terrifying to think we wouldn't have met otherwise! Go for it and good luck

Sounds really strange but we are both excited to meet. We both have tummy flips when we receive a message from each other. Just feel a bit OTT.
That's a great story thanks. Did you feel a connection straight away?

Met my dh on Tinder. Spoke/messaged for a month then met up. Together from day one, really. Three years on and married four months ago 😊

Hope you enjoy the date!

Do try not to get too excited though.

2 people I spoke to via Match, 3 years ago:

• Man A: massive tummy flips, actually shed a tear at my friend's house getting ready because I was soooooo nervous because he seemed perfect for me. Tummy did not flip on first date. By date 4, I was bored and found him irritating.

• Man B: nice chat, but no flips. I cancelled the date - there were other things going on in my life, I didn't have the head space, wasn't hard to let that fish back into the sea. He messaged me on fb 6 months later, we met for a friendly drink - we were both in early days non exclusive dating but very interested in the person we were each seeing. He walked into the room, my tummy flipped, we're getting married in Feb!

So it's a positive story... but a warning not to read too much into things early on. Good luck!

Met my fiance through mysinglefriend

Thanks a Ellissndra - yes I will now try not read into tummy flips.

Tummy flips are a good thing to have....enjoy

Ah can't wait to what it may bring

Bumping for more stories

I met my partner on Match 14 months ago. He messaged on the Saturday and we met for a drink on the Sunday. He didn't really match many of the things I'd decided I was looking for and yet we've been together ever since!

Good luck!!

Met my partner of 3.5 years on OK Cupid. Lived on opposite sides of the city, totally different backgrounds, would never have met if not for OLD. He's lovely! He was date No 13 though, so even if this one doesn't work out, don't give up hope. Hope the tummy flips continue and you have a wonderful time.

I am a bit disappointed as he looks so much older than his pictures and has put on loads of weight.so sadly it didn't work.
Although we still got on very well

DH and I met on okcupid 5.5 years ago. Have been married nearly 18 months and are nicely happy together

You'll get loads of people saying they met their DH/DP through OLD (I did, 12 years ago, married 8 years, 2 DCs, very happy) but I'm not sure how helpful it will be!

As you've discovered, the tummy flips mean nothing really. My only advice would be to meet up with them pretty quickly. It's far too easy to think you have a great rapport with them, only for it to be a real letdown when you finally meet them.

Yes I agree with meeting straight away. I'll just put it down to experience

I agree with meeting asap no point wasting time chatting and then meeting up and no chemistry. All sorts out there OLD is a crazy place to be but can be quite fun too.

Meet for a "pre" date date! Quick coffee. Then, if he's not what you like then no time wasted, but if he is what you like then carry on. I found it takes the pressure off a little.
I found once I adopted this approach things improved a lot. Also, join the dating thread on here, it's invaluable for advice and sharing experiences.
Met DP on Tinder. He wasn't who I would normally have gone for but we had lots of fun, masses in common and big laughs. I took it date by date.!we've been together nearly a year

Never get your hopes up. I have been OLD on and off for 3 years, have been on around 20 first dates, got my hopes up many times to begin with (usually with the ones I had text a lot) only to be disappointed.

I know just look at it as ‘making new friends’ or ‘a night out’ rather than a date, I have met lots of people but none have really been relationship material, some turned out to be married, some looked nothing like their photo and some will still hung up on their ex.

I'm slowly learning. Pre date date is a good idea

Does anyone have a link to the OLD thread??

Dating Thread 125: Grab Dating By The Xmas Baubles.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/3100227-Dating-Thread-125-Grab-Dating-By-The-Xmas-Baubles

Found it and thought I'd share

Glad you found it, I can't work out how to do the links!

I met a few people for a max. 1hr. coffee in a public place. You can tell a lot in an hour, saves wasting both your time. It also helped me refine my profile to discourage people who wouldn't be compatible. OH and I have been together now for over 5 years and are very happy we met. (Though when together and the subject of OLD comes up we both say "Don't try it - look what we ended up with!)

I did OLD for several years on and off, I can’t remember how many times I got my hopes up thinking I had found Mr Right, only to realise that in real life he was anything but.
The last time I tried it, I had met about half a dozen over a few months and was feeling disheartened again. This guy sent me a message on tinder, I didn’t have much to go on other than a grainy mug shot and a discussion about shared interests. I wasn’t feeling hopeful but agreed to meet him thinking that it probably wasn’t going to go anywhere and I would give it a rest again (OLD can get exhausting!).
Anyway, I met him and my stomach did a backflip! He looked way better in real life and I we just clicked. I was his first date since his marriage break up the previous year. We moved in together 6 months ago and like others have said, I wouldn’t have met him any other way 🙂