This has made me laugh but is a pretty sad reflection of our world and how we interact with each other - I think you need to have a think about taking him back to the cave he came from!
Who does the washing when the machine is working - you i bet? Making sure you hang his clothes - even iron them? Why did I decide to do the washing - had you been saying washing needs doing, washing needs doing - you know as us women do when we have a 101 things to do x 10,000 cos it's Xmas.
So he picked up on this but in his head it translates to oh yeah I better do my washing - doesn't even enter into his head to do yours - because it goes back to when his mum would have constantly been reminding him to do something that he didn't want to do And so when he does it he does it with the least amount of effort and as quickly as possible - hence the bag dumped by the door
No doubt his mother would have stepped in at this point and finished off what he did -so using the washing as an example hung it up ironed it etc and so he learns what he can get away with - where was his DF in his life - did his dm do everything for him too?
The hing is you then have all these woman saying leave it let him go out as crinkle wrinkle man - but why should you - why can't he enough self respect and respect for you to iron his bloody shirt - becausecat the end of the day his head is filled with shite - you mentioned he is on twitter - I'm not sure if it is our obsession with phones that is amplyfying how dysfunctional we are or our parenting model or what.
It obviously bothers op - she's picked up on his selfishness by not taking her washing - his lack of respect by not bothering to iron - if nobody else picks him up on it like the laughing secs - who jolts him into realisation - he won't listen to gf because in his head he hears nagging mother or wife - so he is being defiant that he had to do his own washing
I bet op if you look around there will be plenty more of this -
I'm talking here as a Dm of a 16 year old boy - I can see no difference between him & your Dp -ask him to do something have to ask 20 times - then shout - whoa where has this psycho mother come from _ calm down woman - he's ignored 17 times and only really heard the last 2 mainly - then when he does it as quickly as possible because I've interrupted his phone chat, crap whatever he's looking at that warrants phone being glued to his hand.
Has it been done correctly I doubt it - sometimes if I have the energy I will call him back as many times as poosible for him to do it right - more nagging mother - other times I do it - cur the I can get away with this the fairy.s been
My Dd also 16 is better - she does more things that benefit all - i.e. All the washing - so is this male/ female brain - males generally more selfish or because she hears me moaning and really wants to help
I say all this because I've just gone though a really acrimonious divorce - I know this is a bit light hearted but it is an indication of the underlying dynamics of your relationship.
You don't indicate how old you are op or how long in your relationship - I did this for 20 years why because it's female brain? Nurture? I thought we wre working as a team - hell where we.? I was still his mother until he decided he could ditch me for a new model - whether she will change him who knows but he still expects me to take full responsibility for his kids - so I doubt it - sorry to dampen your spirits op but a little glimpse into the future maybe?