Will try to shorten this down.. My Husband got a new job three years ago.
This woman, will call her Sue, made a beeline for my Husband right away, asking him if he wanted to go for breakfast together, asking him to have lunch with her, asking if he wanted to go out for drinks after work, if he goes out for a smoke she appears out of nowhere to join him (she doesn't smoke) She asked him out on a date, he told her he was married.
Sue started to be (what I believe) to be inappropriate, she would tell my Husband who she has been sleeping with, when the last time she got laid was (her words) she even came in work one day and announced to Husband that she came on her period that morning so would be "out of action" for a week.
She started to text him when he was at home, she wanted to know what he was doing when he had a week off, when he replied saying we were heading away for a week her response was to say "oh, you are spending it with her?" asked him out for a meal when he got back, it was just constant.
My Husband would come home saying he loved his job but she was "doing his head in" he felt like he couldn't be in work for five seconds before she was there around him (for the record they work in the same building but different depts)
His work have a cafe, and he sometimes asks me to call in to have lunch with him there, I turned up one day and as soon as she saw me she turned to him and said "Oh, thought you would go to lunch with me not her" then walked off.
It all came to a head a month or so ago when he told her (again) that he was married and not interested in anything other than working with her, he then changed his number and told his boss not to give it to anyone else, she then tried to add him on facebook. He made a big deal about him not wanting her to have his new number.
Was wrapping a birthday present last night and Husband told me to get his sisters address from his phone, she recently moved away and she text him her address, went to his texts and the top one in the list was from Sue asking if he wanted her to meet him so they could go for breakfast together, he had replied saying yes!
He has spent three years telling me she did his head in, how she was affecting his work, how he didn't want her to have his new number and now I am confused.
I gave him his sisters address then said "So you and Sue went for food after all then?" He just mumbled yes, I then got the whole "we work together so I may as well try to get on with her" thing.
I don't care about him having friends of the opposite sex if that is what she is, I don't care if they eat together at work, But I do care about the evil looks I get from her if I dare to be around my husband when he has asked me to meet him, I care about her texting him all the time when he is at home, I care about the whole "oh you are doing such a thing with HER"
Do I just let this play out and keep my eye on the texts? or do I talk to my husband? or am I being paranoid and this is just a normal work relationship?