Verifying my boyfriend is not a cheat

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The start of my last relationship was 10 years ago, so technology etc has changed since but I now have a b/f (made it official about 1-2 months ago), before that anything else would not be classed as cheating.

I have been checking through his online presences and found a POF profile which he must of made around the time of meeting me a year and a half ago or it could of been after! but how much after?

My question is: (without being a member) How can I tell when he made his profile? When he last logged in? When he was last active? eg: like editing his profile or adding/deleting something.

Also....Should I bring this up with him? and if so, How?
As I don't wish to invest in someone if they merely see me as a backup, side or is not confident to really wish to be my b/f.

You’re right, it is too short..... to fuck about looking for ‘proof’ rather than open your bloody mouth and ask.

Ghosting is the sign of a coward.

But Lefty, if OP had at least seen these accounts before becoming official, she wouldn’t be as suspicious as she clearly is now. Or if there were no accounts then, she’d know he was up to no good. Why wait all this time, become official, then start looking?

If I hadn’t done my homework in the year and half I’d known him (and looking up a POF account wouldn’t cross my mind as I don’t OLD) I’d either give him the benefit of the doubt, or outright ask about it.

@thickasmice the OP may have only become aware of the account recently and perhaps with the year before that it would have been non issue if he was on a dating site as they weren't exclusive?

@gamergirl ok so let's say this guy is a serial dater , when OP asks him about POF I very much doubt he is going to casually turn around and say "yes I am indeed on POF and actively looking for as much sex as I can get".

To be clear I am not saying LTB but I do think it's worth trying to validate when he was last active on POF . Time is precious and so is your heart/feelings OP

You seem very invested in this... with passions! Maybe you could yanno do the decent thing and offer to check this account out for the OP. Satisfy you both.

@gamerchick 😂😂 I'm not invested it just irritates me when women label other women (unfairly imo) as stalkers for wanting to check out a person's online presence for many reasons , not just to understand if they're a cheat but of also reputiable nature, surely a person would want to do this if they had children to think about too.

Trust your gut, make a fake account and check yourself. Don't feel bad about it either! Far too many posts on here about this kinda thing.

i found it on google

How are you getting on OP?

Why don't you trust him?

If I had so little trust for someone after 2 months, I'd walk away.

If I found out my OH had so little trust for me after 2 months, I'd walk away.

Life is too short!