Social media - am I being unreasonable

[Hiya23]

Ok so the other week my DP mentioned to me he felt I didn't msg / call him enough . We've been together a year , no children ATM.

We speak every night on the phone but I had been feeling tired over the past month with work being busy so I took on board what he said and stepped up my game accordingly.

We always message each other good morning via whatsapp with a good few sentence about what we have going on for the day, telling each other we love each other etc. He usually instigates the first message as he gets up for work earlier than I (around 7am he'll send a msg) so yesterday I wake up at 8 as day off and notice no message I go on Facebook to send him a msg on there as they have funny gifs/stickers to use and notice he's already online , I leave it for about ten mins and still active so I decide to send the good mourning message and see how he responds.

He then messaged me good morning on whatsapp like he hadn't even seen my Facebook message but my message had prompted him.
I then noticed he just went straight back on Facebook and was basically on it for most of the day.

I guess my issue with this is that I message him before I even bother to check my social media , it really felt like I was an after thought...I've brought this up with him and he basically said "so what if I fucking check Facebook before messaging you" and has gone in a sulk and not talking to me (which he does on occasion) and said "you're being fucking petty" he doesn't often swear but did so in his messages.

I know there are people on here with much more significant problems then this so please don't flame me 🙈but I just wanted others opinions on this ....am I being to controlling/ needy /petty ?

You're pissed off because he checked facebook before messaging You? That's mental!!

Also he speaks to you like shit. From what you've said I don't feel like you are good for eachoeach other, doesn't sound too healthy

I can't believe that some pp are criticising your bf.

If a bf was angry with me because id done something else before messaging them one morning, they'd be gone.

You overreacted hugely, and it makes you sound nuts!

I thought the DP was initially accusing OP of not messaging him enough??!!

We seem to text/message/tweet/call on a massive scale nowadays, how did we ever cope before mobile devices. We did just fine..

Sounds like 6 of one etc..

FWIW if a fella spoke to me like that he’d be out on his ear. OP find someone who treats you nicely, you’re only young

Both of you need to grow the fuck up

Did people not "communicate" before social media came alomg ?
I can't imagine living my life according to a set of "rules" like this. It sounds tedious, restrictive and juvenile.

It all sounds really juvenile and petty. I wouldn't expect a text first thing or even at all throughout the day though.

Why has everything got to be abuse and have a fancy title these days. I would hardly say he was "stone walling" OP. 🤔
If I'm pissed off, I'll go silent for a bit. It's so I can regain my composure, think the situation over and not say something in the heat of the moment, I would regret later on.

Don't have children ....

It's nice to text occasionally during the day if you aren't busy with work or whatever but it definitely shouldn't be obligatory. The way you both obsess about who sent the first text and who did what before sending it is honestly stifling and awful. There should be no routine or expectations around text messages or they will feel like a chore. It's not necessary to communicate with your boyfriend several times a day in order to have good communication.

Sorry op but you both sound like teenagers!
Definitely chill out..

Sorry but i agree with everybody else and you have massively over reacted and I dont really blame him for getting cross.

And yes, you sound like a teenager.

Life is way too sort for relationships like this. When you are with a nice, mature reasonable person these types of dramas just don't happen. You both need to stop being petty and hurtful, and consider whether you are right for each other if that is the way you speak to/treat one another. It's not very healthy or emotionally mature. I absolutely speak from experience and I can say the wrong person/relationship can provoke this kind of crap, it's so much easier when you are with someone who doesn't stoop to this sort of thing.

Omg I've never been so glad to be in my late 50s!
How did we manage before all this texting etc? It seems like the more means of communication we have, the less we communicate.
In the olden days, if we went to meet someone and they didn't turn up, we just went home.