Double booked dates

[MinnieMul]

So I have been single for a few months & currently NC with a guy who I was dating and started to like. I still think about him a lot but he hasn't tried to contact me & I didn't drunk text him at the weekend so I am moving on quickly. I went on a date with a guy Friday and it was lots of fun & included lots of kissing (which he wasn't great at) but he has invited me around tonight. I clearly know where this will lead and I feel that if he wanted more than just sex he wouldn't have invited me around so early. I haven't been dating that long but I feel that this is following a similar doomed path as my previous dates.

I have since started speaking to another guy and although we were only texting for a day he has invited me for a drink tonight, in a bar near to where I work. I have no idea whether this will go anywhere but I am more tempted to blow out the first guy, just to see.

Just after some quick reassurance that this makes the most sense? Also, do you think I should be honest with the first guy or just wait and see how tonight goes? I am so new to this dating stuff.

Thank you :)

If you are going to be in the dating game you need to get better at saying "Wednesday doesn't work for me, how about Thursday?"

It's perfectly fine to see more than one person at a time, if you haven't agreed to be exclusive.

It's not very polite to agree to do a thing then cancel because you have a better offer. (in general, not just in dating)

First guy, you didn't enjoy kissing and he is going straight to Netflix and chill. Which is dull, especially if the kisses were crap, sex is likely to be rubbish. So bin.

Go have fun. Go out.

Definitely agree that someone whose idea of a good second date is to go to their house is BORING. I want to do interesting things please.

Ideally you'd have assessed his offer, and him, on its own, rather than only now declining because you have a better offer.

If you want to get out of the "doomed path" you will need to stop saying "yes" to things you don't actually fancy. Even if you don't have another man waiting in the wings.

I'd go out with the second guy. You've only had 1 date with the first guy and he wants you to go to his already!! Hardly putting in the effort is he 😒

@Trills - thanks, yes thats what I thought second date at his house isn't the most fun! Especially when his kissing isn't great. I am not aiming to be exclusive but double booked, not because I am generally rude, just struggling to fit things in before leaving London for Christmas!

@userxx yes no effort at all so I think if I say I am not interested in going straight to his house, I'll be able to see his reaction.

Another vote for guy number 2. Have fun

I agree with going for a date with number 2!

I’d also say to the first guy ‘I had fun with you but I’m looking for more than just sex’