EX's mother sent me a Christmas Text

[samthoams98]

So me and my girlfriend split up around a month ago and since then I've had little communication with her mother as she'd text me from time to time asking how I've got on.

Now that I'm slowly starting to move on her mum randomly text me today hoping that I was doing okay and that me and my family have a lovely Christmas and that she hopes 2018 is a good year for me. Her mum was nothing but lovely and she looked after me so well. I'm only 18 years of age btw so she did alot for me.

I'm not sure whether to reply or what to say because I figure she might tell my ex or something and I don't want it as if I'm trying to hang on and be messaging her family.

Any help :/?

thankyou, and I hope you have a lovely christmas too.

When a relationship breaks down its sad that you can be suddenly ex communicated by people who've almost been family.

It sounds like a kind message from someone who has only ever been lovely to you.

I'd go with a simple response saying thank you for your words. merry Christmas and happy 2018

Ditto

she did a lot for you, so you should reply.
She also seems to think a lot of you, you don't stop loving/liking whatever the connection is just because you are no longer a significant part of their life.

If you feel like it keep in touch, you don't even have to mention your ex.
I'm sure she'd put him right if he did suggest anything, and besides you know the reason for keeping in touch, it's nothing to do with him.

Sorry, far too many "yous" and the sexes mixed up.

A simple thank you and merry Christmas to you too would be fine.

As a Mum I know I get involved in my older children’s relationships in the sense that I get to know and care for their GF/BF and that doesn’t just stop magically when the relationship ends.

It's always a slightly odd and upsetting experience when your son or daughter splits up with a partner that you got on really well with. You lose someone that you have welcomed into your own family warmly and yet lost them through no fault in your own relationship to them. Obviously continuing any sort of close relationship would be odd but I think keeping touch at the level of Christmas greetings is lovely. Just reply as above or even at bit more length.

If you were living together and spent many weekends having dinner at hers, then "Thanks! Merry Xmas to you too!" is appropriate.
Every other situation, just ignore, because you really do not want to get drawn into drama.