Please bear with me. It's quite long and I don't want to dripfeed. So my DP's mother is probably a day or two away from the end of her life. We've been together ten years and I have a terrible relationship with his family and have been NC for 2 years now - mainly because they hated me, would badmouthe me, exclude me from things and my DP who is very close to them and runs around after them did very little to back me up as well as spending s lot of time with them weekly. It put a lot of stress on our relationship and the end point was 2 years ago when his father died and I took 3 weeks unpaid leave to help only to be subjected to cold shouldering and his mother screaming at me.
Since then I have always said I will not attend anyone's funerals, birthdays or anything. I still am going to keep to this but if I'm honest I'm surprised at my own reaction of just feeling a bit meh about what I know is the end point of an old woman and that does make me feel a bit sad. I'm not this person that's so cold hearted. I'm not sure what this even says about the future of our relationship to be honest. My DP has had less to do with his family recently but obviously he will now be ensconced with helping them and funeral arrangements and part of me just thinks well I'm not going - and he is fine with that - but I may as well go away on holiday and really I'm not even sure I care how he feels.
I don't really know why I'm posting. I suppose because maybe I am not a very nice person.