how do I stop myself hating my piece of shit exh for what he’s done (or doesn’t do) to his children?

[housewifedesperate]

Just that really. He left, nearly 3 years ago for another woman.
He now has virtually no relationship with his oldest daughter and a very tenuous and sporadic one with the younger.
He’s treated them like crap and always second best and they’ve suffered (particularly oldest) from his actions.
Try as I may, I just can’t get my head around someone being able to walk away from their children with no apparent guilt. I hate him for how he treats his daughters. He honestly doesn’t deserve the title of dad.
Just a rant, I feel so angry today.

I get this and I've been angry today too -my x is a cunt basically but continues to see his kids and still messes with their heads - worse still he causes a split between Ds & Dd as Dd refuses to meet Ow and so for the 2nd year on the trot he is not seeing his Dd over Xmas - ny two are 16 year old twins. Ow doesn't give a fuck because her two kids are benefitting from a higher earner than their own father - I'm now on benefits as the cunt refuses to meet his responsibilities and kids have been through hell the last 4 years - but it's all ok because I am a bitter & twisted psycho ex wife

Yep, I’m the crazy ex wife too. My children dislike the other woman and it’s really all up in the air whether they’ll stay on Christmas Eve (the only night a year either of them stay because they don’t like it there)
I’m not crazy though, just driven to the end of my tether by a shit, uncaring dad. He’s so useless, he will never acknowledge what he’s done because he’s incapable of those feelings.

Oh gosh, you have all my sympathy. I'm feeling angry today too (made worse by the recent death of my father). My ex left almost three years ago too. He ripped the family to shreds for a year and a half putting his needs first at all costs. He has no respect for me whatsoever and, I believe, he has the life he wants: the children one weekend a fortnight, very little child maintenance to pay and a new relationship.

I cannot believe that when he has his kids for two nights a fortnight only he chooses to spend part of that time with his new partner. My youngest is seven and has, imo, had enough to contend with over the past three years without having to spend some of the precious time with her father with a new woman too.

I know I must come across as nothing but envious but it's the inequality of things which bother me.

Sorry, rant over

Another ‘crazy ex wife’ here! I wish I could give you answers but I’m in a similar situation. He hasn’t seen DDs for months and thinks sending a text every few weeks just saying ‘Hi, how are you?’ is staying in contact with them! He is probably the most deceitful and dishonest person I’ve ever met yet the only time he has been in contact with oldest DD recently, he screamed down the phone at her calling her a compulsive liar! This is a man who had at least 3 affairs (that I know of), tried it on with some of my friends, told his work colleagues we were separated when we weren’t, was a staunch atheist for the duration of our 18 year marriage but is now claiming to have always been deeply religious! I’m turning the DDs against him apparently!
1, I can only dream of having that much influence over a 19 and nearly 18 year old!
2, I don’t think he needs any help with that!
I think we just have to accept that they’re total twats and be grateful that our DC have us!