Relationship and baby

[Pandasocks1]

I have been with my partner for 3 years we have a baby together. He moved in when I was pregnant then moved out after a couple of months saying he wasn't ready for commitment. He promised it would be temporary until the baby was born. Now he still hasn't moved back saying he will one day but can't say when. The baby is nearly one. He comes round maybe twice a week. I'm essentially a single parent. Do I stick it out in the hope that it will get better? Am I being unreasonable wanting him round more? The whole situation has got me very low and resentful somewhat, especially as he has all his own time to do what he wants while I don't. I wouldn't change my baby for the world but I do feel annoyed that I'm doing it all alone.

He really is calling the shots in your relationship isn’t he?

Decide what you want. He either gives it to you or he doesn’t.

My guess is you move on and he starts taking the baby to his house.

My ex and me didn't move in together until ds was 14 months old. Resentment had well set in for me by then. He hadn't supported him /us financially at all up til then, and he resented doing that when we lived together. I stuck it out as his dps kept up the pressure to keep giving him more time. Sorry op but he isn't the man you thought. And def not the df your dc deserves.

Trying to find a polite way to put this but does he pay his way?

It doesn't sound like a relationship to me, twice weekly visits from someone you have been with for a couple of years and have a child with is somewhat lacking commitment in my mind.

I would end the relationship and move on.

Your placing your life on hold while he lives the single life.

Remove yourself as an option.... get child support through the proper channels and set up proper visitation.

Don't let him treat you like this.

He's not your partner. I'd get rid and move on with your life.

Any guy who doesn't want to be around to help you with a baby and miss so much of that first year of the baby's life is not a real man or dad in that matter! Get things sorted sooner rather than later so that you or you baby wont be let down again and again! That is no life for someone to lead!

He's not your partner. He's someone who gets to play daddy when it suits and has sex on tap. You are being used. What's unreasonable is that you aren't sure whether you, or even your child, deserve better than this bullshit.

You deserve better. Your baby deserves better. You're wasting time here. This is classic sunk costs fallacy - that if you walk away, you accept that it's all been for nothing. The problem is, that thinking is what makes people into gambling addicts. It HAS all been for nothing and all you can control now is how much more love, time and hope you throw away on him. And how much longer you keep yourself in limbo in the hope that this inadequate creature grows the fuck up and starts to behave as though other people have feelings, needs and rights. I'd not hold your breath. For a selfish person, what you offer is an ideal set-up. You do all the work, he gets to enjoy sex and a baby when he has a few spare hours to kill. What's the incentive to change? Why would he? And more to the point... why do you even want a full-on, committed relationship with someone so worthless, anyway?

If you haven't already sorted out proper child support, I would do it asap. Your child deserves to have proper payments, even if that's all the father is capable of providing.

You are a single parent. I'd focus on the little one and bin off the worthless adult, really.