Half-hearted friendships

[Onecatandtwomonkeys]

I probably have 4 friends but all the friendships seem half-hearted at the moment.

Anyone else have this where you are often the one initiating and any advice. I don't want to meet up, I just want to chat over e-mail. This has worked fine but since September it seems to be flaking, maybe as my child started at a different school to the others but there's no easy way to meet others at the new school. It's not desperate just a little depressing.

I think friendships are stronger when you have a bond in some area.

Now that your child is going to a different school do you have any connections to these people apart from email?

do you not want to meet up?

Thanks SeaCabbage - friend A sons are still at same school but different years but clash due to both being ASD so I think not too much in common any more and probably fairly mutual cooling tbh.

Friend B - Sons in same year at school and she does has initiated twice this year. Friend C - Sons at same school but not same year, she probably initiates half the time but e-mails down from her sending me loads every day last year to one a week this year. Friend D - male via work which he's left 1.5 years ago. He was flirty at work but made clear I could only be friends but now he's quite hot and cold and doesn't tend to initiate, sometimes 5 messages in 1 evening then nothing for 3 weeks.

I'm not opposed to meeting up but do plenty of things with my kids and work so not bothered about that. It's just having someone to chat to really, someone to joke with, discuss future plans, discuss kids, discuss any issues either of us have, that sort of thing.

I think most people want to see their friends in person unless the friend lives a very long distance away.
I wouldnt want just an email friendship, I would find it pointless. If a friend just kept emailing me and not wanting to do anything I would just let them go.