What does true love feel like?

[MidnightStars]

Well just that really. How do you know what true love feels like? In the past I've thought I was but I think it was more lust than love? So how many times you been In love and how did you know?

From my experience over the years, I would say, knowing, unquestioningly, you will look after them when they are ill, say the right things when they are bereaved, see immediately when they are down.

And then knowing that they will know and do the same for you.

That you will get through the shit that life can throw at you together.

When I met him, it was like I was finally home

I think it's when you feel really comfortable with someone and are on the same wavelength.I often refer to my relationship with DH as being a slippers and PJ's relationship as I feel safe and. comfortable with him. We've been married for nearly 30 years.To me that's true love

When people say coming home. What does that mean? As in your safe haven? Your comfortable place?

It’s very hard to explain. I didn’t believe it even existed for the first 35 years of my life! I always had this feeling in life that I never fit in anywhere. I had an abusive childhood and went on to have a loveless marriage. When I met DP, something amazing happened. I just cuddled up in his arms and it felt like it was the place I was always meant to be. Sounds silly, which is why I don’t tell my friends. But we get each other the way nobody else ever has. Due to our circumstances, we don’t see each other that often, but when we do, he makes me feel so safe and loved

True love is unconditional love..i.e., being able to accept a person the way they are and give love to them.

For me, it's how I feel when that person is not around. It's easy to feel lovey-dovey when you are flirting, kissing, laughing etc. but what happens when they go? I knew I was in love when I missed DH. I missed him even if we were apart only an hour or two. In very much an aching, longing way. Very uncharacteristic of me as I, generally speaking, enjoy being alone. And when we are together I feel like everything will be ok; it's very comfortable and safe. It's been very easy too; we met, we liked each other, we started dating, he asked me to be his gf....there's no game-playing or drama or second guessing like with previous men I'd dated. Also, I find that we fall more in love as time goes on - I definitely love him more now than I did when we first started to say 'I love you'. I just hope that continues!

I read somewhere that lust is a furnace, but love is a hearth, which sounds about right to me.

So love is feeling safe and at home whenever you are with them,

I get the 'he's home' thing totally, but I don't know how to put it into words. I feel safe when I'm with DH. I feel calm. I feel right. And the happiest I can be is sprawling in bed on a Sunday morning giggling like an idiot over some kind of stupid in joke that only we understand.

I also feel like he’s the piece of me that’s been missing. The sane, calm sensible piece in my case 😂

It’s all of the things described here, but most of all a warm feeling inside - for me anyway. It also takes time and after 42 years of marriage I think I’ve found it 😉