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Co-sleepers! - OK how do we manage a sex life???

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promater · 21/04/2007 22:28

Without going into gory detail - I owe my dh many many sexual favours (and vice versa) we find it a 'fun' currency for getting each other to do stuff - but anyway am still bf'ing and co-sleeping with dd (1yo last week) - which is lovely and everyting but kind of kills the mood for love - iykwim

So how do you other co-sleepers manage?? It is difficult enough to find the energy to want a bit of rumpy (and you can forgit about foreplay - lol!) - but nearby babies are a real passionkiller! DH is very good about it all bless him but we do need a bit of intimacy.

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Winestein · 21/04/2007 22:39

Have sex downstairs before going to bed.... although that does assume you put DD to bed before you go.

purplemonkeydishwasher · 21/04/2007 22:40

i always have a giggle when friends/MIL etc come over and sit on the couch that i shagged on the night before!!!

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promater · 21/04/2007 22:42

More often than not recently I have ended up going to bed (and sleep!) at same time as dd - not always planned - but she does not sleep well yet and so if I do manage to sneak away it is usually with one ear (and half my attn) trained to hear her cry - I don't want her disturbing ds (2) - again a passionkiller.

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Nemo2007 · 21/04/2007 22:51

we either had sex downstairs or in between putting the other 2 to bed and going back downstairs would have a quickie with dd2 asleep in moses basket.

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promater · 21/04/2007 22:54

I think I am missing the spontaneity and freedom of prechildren life - must reality check myself and make the most of what opps we have - ds going to gps tommoro maybe they will take dd as well? - bet they won't though

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ZisforZebra · 21/04/2007 22:54

We co-slept with both DS' and conceived DS2 on the living room floor when DS1 was 11 months old. Sneaking out (and being fairly quick!) is the way to go...

ZisforZebra · 21/04/2007 22:56

Does DD have an afternoon nap? With DS out with gps, that could be your opportunity.

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promater · 21/04/2007 23:02

Z - we conceived dd when ds was 11m - lol but I don't think it was floor though I think it may have been car - d naps very haphazardly - ds was great napped for 2 hours solid in the middle of day not so good at night but ok. dd is a bit of a nightmare and protests if not attached to me which is qiute draining. The constant physical closeness with dd makes it difficult for dh to get close and makes me want a bit of space from everyone when I can get it

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ZisforZebra · 21/04/2007 23:07

I know what you mean about needing space when you don't have a baby attached to you! The only reason I know that DS was conceived on the floor was because we'd only managed to have sex 5 times in that whole 11 months! lol Good luck.

stitch · 21/04/2007 23:08

i knew a couple who just got on with it at the side of the bed.
i beleive they had two dc in bed withthem. and it wasnt a big kingsize.

NappiesGalore · 21/04/2007 23:10

while the dc are sleeping in the bedroom, the rest of the house is empty... enjoy.

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promater · 21/04/2007 23:21

all this sex advice - thank you ladies - has made me realise that right know I would prefer a cup of tea!!

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