Not sure what to do...

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Although I'm not sure posting in a forum is the right thing but I'm at work and can't think or talk to anyone. I just got 2 texts from my stbxh the first saying I hadn't parked my car properly (so he must be near my place) and the second saying he was going to write down what my terms were (?) then end it all.

Is this a suicide threat? I texted then tried to call, got nothing. I can't go home unless I get a taxi as I left my car there, office Xmas party tonight...not sure if I should panic or ignore. WSID?? WWYD?

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It's just so ridiculous. He says he told mutual friends (neighbours) that I'd misinterpreted a text and now they all think I'm mad for calling police. I am very tempted to show them the text and as what they'd have thought. Somehow I feel I want the last word on it! I should let it go but he won't. I know I'm just giving oxygen to his moods and it's a control thing but I'd forgotten what it was like to be around him. I just wish he'd find someone else to focus on.

You are giving him oxygen so stop and he'll.eventually run out of steam.

Don't show your neighbours the texts, just behave as normal amd woth dignity.

Unless your neighbours are particularly stupid or antagonistic themselves, they will be able to straight through him. At the moment, he is making himself look ridiculous and they won't appreciate being drawn into your relationship dramas.

They won't be saying anything about you they will be saying to each other "well what on earth must he have said for her to misinterpret it as a suicide threat? I mean, you wouldn't call the police if you didn't think it were necessary" if they are talking about it at all.

He also knows this and is making a fool over himself by protesting too much. Ignore him.

Thanks so much for all the wise insight here! In a way I'm so relieved as the scenarios going through my head Friday (having to deal the police/ambulance, Christmas being ruined ...forever, telling the DCs one of whom is on holiday and would have had to come back, the flat becoming a crime scene, flat being hard to sell due to said crime scene status etc- all in the space of an hour's imagination) were so life-changing that his pity party seems irrelevant. At least he's officially cried wolf now, so to speak. And I showed I cared, at least in the eyes of friends and neighbors. So if it happens again (it won't) it's HIS fault. He's been playing the depression card for a while now. I don't want to belittle this because I know how suicide affects families. Tragic beyond belief. Not something to be complacent about and I think I'm going to tell him how selfish he was being.

Snow and yes I'm not pursuing it or dealing with it any further but I am going to make a final statement to him about the fact that I was right to call the police and I'd do it again ...and that he needs to know that I won't be on the receiving end of this, I'll pass things on to others so he can't manipulate me. It's positive for me, I feel it's a burden lifted. Many thanks for all the insight!