Think I was love bombed

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And now it's over and I'm so gutted.

First person I've trusted in a long time. He seemed very grounded and confident in his own skin.

Lots of attention initially, constant texts, phonecalls, would message me at 5.30 am when he woke up.
Told his kids about me, his friends, he talked about us having holidays & trips.
This in the space of about 2-3 weeks

Now over the last week the contact has lessened, the nice messages stopped and it made me feel very anxious and on edge.

Today he told me he doesn't see us being together, doesn't miss me during the week, doesn't even think about me.
Then said 'I'm just not falling for you the way I thought I was'

I feel like I've been punched
How could I be so wrong? So stupid?

Please do not even respond to him. He wants to keep you as a booty call!!!!
Ignore, ignore, ignore. You are too good to be messed around with x

He sounds like someone who falls into relationships head over heels and perhaps doesn't realise how it comes across. He then gets to know a person better and realise the click isn't there. I don't think this is more than that, and I'm not excusing it. I just don't think it comes across as manipulative or anything.

Agree with the blocking thing - he is only asking you about it because you took control of the situation. He's probably trying to test you to see if you are "worth it".

Do not play his silly games. Block off all means of contact and he will look like a fool. He's the one who has told his friends and kids about you. What a moron!

Ignore him. Please god, ignore him. If this is all going on this early into things imagine what life could be like with him??!! Horrific! He’s shown himself to be over-emotional, dramatic, untrustworthy, flakey, unreliable, weird...how many more red flags do you need! Ditch and move on

You're not stupid, lovebombing can happen to even the most rational person, when you meet someone who seems to totally adore you it's easy to get caught up in the romance of it all, so when that adoration is taken away quite suddenly it's a massive body blow. Please look after yourself and stop beating yourself up over it.

This exact thing happened to me in October. The article that cherry just included is exactly what happened. Then he just turned completely and was like no I don't want a relationship. And made me feel like I was insane because I took everything he said to what he actually said...how crazy of me I've never had this happen before so I was taken a back a bit and thought omg this person adores me..but I've learnt a lot about this love bombing, it makes you drop your guard. But I had to question myself as to why I was so upset after this happened and why I didn't get over something that was quite short for quite a while. I think it was just the attention i loved more than anything as you don't really know someone after a few weeks. I know I was quite pathetic with it but when you drop your defenses and someone hurts you like this your ego gets hurt and it's more that really.

Thank you all for such lovely supportive messages
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Cherry* great link thank you, fits lots of those almost to the letter. Although not others.
My mother is a hideous narcissist who I am NC with so I'm disappointed in myself that I didn't see the signs.

I still feel a bit confused over it all, I expect better from myself, I'm not usually taken in by this and am quite good at red flag spotting. But this just completely passed me by.
I really believed that I'd found a good one and am so disappointed that he wasn't as I liked so much about him.

So I'm trying to highlight to myself all the things that weren't quite right