Feel like I will be single forever

[purpleangel17]

This will be my 4th Christmas since leaving my husband. It was the right thing to do because he cheated and was controlling and our children are much happier now we live apart. For a long time I was happy just me and the children, now I am starting to feel like I am ready to move on.

I don't want casual dating or sex, I want a long term relationship, possibly another marriage. I don't intend to rush into anything, I would take my time but that is my end goal so it wouldn't be right or fair to date men who knew they didn't want that.

Last year I was kinda dating someone but it fell apart in the New Year. In total we dated about 3 months so not long. And that has been it in 3 and a half years...

I try OLD but I only seem to get contacted by people who are blatantly not a good fit at all. No one I am attracted to is ever attracted back. I know I am very overweight but I do have a lot of things going for me, I think a lot of men though just don't or can't look past the weight.

Seriously feeling like I will be single forever and there just aren't any nice, intelligent, non-controlling men out there who would consider dating me. 😔

How do you feel about your weight? Not how you think other people feel how do YOU feel. If your happy and confident with it. Then stay as you are. If your not, change it. Do not change any aspect of your life for anyone other than yourself.

With regards to being single forever, I assure you. You won't be. But your looking for something very specific that it's going to be hard to find. I'm not telling you to lower your expectations, but why not have fun, meet new people and THEN think about the future

How can you get to your end goal, of a LTR & possibly marriage without meeting people first?

A lot of men are happy to date & tick along & to grow into something however, if presented with your wish list would run a mile.

Surely the best bits are the dating, the laughs, the meals out & the wild sex & not the monotony of choosing carpet samples & trips to IKEA

It isn't as if I demand commitment on the first date... it is openness to an LTR that matters. Serial dating or casual sex just has no appeal for me. Obviously it takes time to know if someone is right and that might lead to a series of boyfriends but that is different from setting out to date a lot of guys. Is intelligent, nice, non-controlling and not a commitment-phobe such a tall order?