Another in-laws Christmas one

[Nannyplumbrocks]

So with Christmas coming there will be an obligatory meal with the inlaws. Not on Christmas day thankfully but another day over the Christmas period. I avoid these people like the plague. Two of them in particular actually make me feel extremely anxious . However I have agreed to attend for husbands sake. But the closer it gets the more anxious I get. The stress is really getting me. Do I just have to suck it up for dh or do I refuse? Dh and our children would still attend either way.

Damn posted in the wrong place! How do I move?

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We've moved this to relationships now!

Is it just a meal or a whole day? I think if you've agreed then unless you have a cast-iron excuse (D&V) then just grit your teeth, smile a lot, be complimentary about the food and ensure DH knows you need a reasonable early get-away.

What is it that makes you anxious - are they unpleasant to you? Maybe if you can figure out what it is about them that affects you, you could come up with some strategies to make the visit easier?

Unless there is a serious reason why you have no relationship with them, I think you just have to suck it up and make the best of it. There's no reason to make a fuss if it's just a matter of not getting along. We are NC with my inlaws. If there was any possible way it could be any other way or it was just a matter of making the best of one day and getting it done with, I would totally do it. Unfortunately, the reasons we are NC with them are pretty serious (related to risk of abuse of our children). If it wasn't something that serious and it was just me who didn't like them, I'd be the bigger person, suck it up and make the day as positive as I could for my dh and kids. It's just one day and you at least have Christmas to yourselves.

Why do they make you anxious?