Are you still compatible?

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Been with dh for 13 years married for 8 1/2. I was 16 when we got together, I'm starting to think we may not be compatible anymore.
Things he finds funny I don't, things he wants to do I don't. I think we used to be on the same page or maybe I was just young and went along with him (I don't know)
He's quite a grump now too
Have you been through this? Do you have to be compatible for things to work?

Me and my partner have taken a break. I sought councilling and it was suggested that as our relationship started when we were both young and has children early. None of us got to experience being younge free and single. It's ofs harder now we have children.

What do you feel about moving forward? Do you love him and want to continue?

I could have written this post have been with my now husband 10 year married nearly 3. We were both in our teens when we got together. Some days he drives me mad acting like a big kid all the time. I am the more serious one and get stressed out with his immaturity.

Louiseandhercubs that makes alot of sense. I wouldn't change the way things have happened in my life. But my husband was my first proper bf so perhaps we didn't have time to have fun and explore more in terms of relationships.

I think you change a lot as you get older and more mature. What seems fun and endearing at 16 can be an irritant when it is still being done 10 years later. This can happen at any age though too, it's not just limited to people who get together young. You suddenly find interests in things that your partner doesn't and you can drift apart

Exactly that.

Also women tend to mature a lot earlier and we're the ones dealing with housework kids etc.

Maybe try a break? Time apart to blow off steam and the cobwebs

I do think you have to be compatible for things to work. Most couples grow in to each other as they get older (assuming they were a good fit to begin with). We were in our early/mid 20s when we got together and 10 years later, I'd say we are closer and more compatible than we were then just because we are in a different place in life. But 16 is very young. I would be a mess if I was still with the person I was with when I was 16. We were very different people (I wasn't really old enough to realise that yet) and I've changed a lot since then. But that doesn't automatically mean you must be incompatible now. It might just mean you both have to work at it more to find your similarities if you've grown apart a bit.

I think it’s inevitable especially as you met so young, that your interests & compatibility will silo. From my experience & not applicable to all but, people don’t really have their personal brand sorted to their mid 30’s