Anyone up? Found out dp cheated today and I can't sleep

[Littlebean13]

I'm just devastated.
Saw the messages on his phone to ow this afternoon. Rung her up and she admitted it all. It's only been going on for a couple of weeks. She had no idea he had a girlfriend which I know is true as he said the same.
I'm just so fucking angry. We moved in together less than a month ago. Opened a joint account and became financially tied to each other.
Why the fuck has he done it? Not just to me but to my beautiful ds who adores him why would he do that to him? Why ruin our lives for some cheap thrill and abit of attention?
I honestly thought our relationship was the strongest it has been the past few weeks. I thought we were happy and he kept dropping hints he was going to propose at xmas.
How do I get over this? My hearts breaking

The rent gets paid in a couple of days and he has put enough in the joint account to cover rent, bills etc for a month. Am I right in thinking I can just take my name off the rental as i'm only a named tenant and not lead?

I'm really sorry, OP.

Always makes me really sad to read threads like this. Please don't believe all men are like him. This behaviour isn't inevitable. Don't start questioning yourself, wondering if you did something wrong, should have seen it coming etc. It's him, not you. You will move on. It will stop hurting. Sending lots of strength and a big hug

Am I right in thinking I can just take my name off the rental as i'm only a named tenant and not lead

Really depends on the landlord/agency - some it will be really easy; some will want to restart checks on the new sole tenant. He'd need to agree in all cases, I believe.

I'm so sorry this has happened

I'm sure he will agree. He is devestated but I couldn't give a shit he has made his bed he can lie in it.
I'm feeling suprisingly strong today. I've got amazing family and friends who have all dropped everything to support me. They are all being incredible so I think that is making me feel stronger.
I've already started dealing with all the practical stuff. Just want it done and sorted before xmas so ds can have an amazing day

It sounds like you are a really strong woman. He is a fool. It's shit, but I'm glad you found out now before marriage and more DC.

Oh I’m so sorry. What an awful situation for you. Glad you’re being strong. Big hugs. X

I’m very impressed with how ‘on it’ you are.

I expect he is genuinely devastated as you sound really lovely, but, he’s old enough to know better, so that’s his problem. It’s such a bloody shame though isn’t it.

Anyway, what are YOUR plans? Have you started looking for a new place?

Stay strong! Focus on Christmas. Sending hugs x

Thanks everyone for your support.
I've already put plans in place for a new house, luckily I have a friend who rents propertys and a lovely one will be avaliable after xmas that I can easily afford. I'm just devestated I have to move ds again. Plus I really adore this new house we live in. It felt like home the second I walked in the door. If I could afford to stay here alone I would in a heartbeat.
I'm so angry that my whole life has been turned upside down all thanks to someone elses selfish ways
I'm clinging on to the anger for now I think it is whats getting me through.

Well done! You’re doing the best for both you and DS, even if the intitial upheaval is tough.

What a wanker.

Have you looked at universal credit? You wouldn't be able to cover the rent that way?

Ada I claimed wtc and ctc when i was single before we moved in together. I think if I stayed it probably would cover the rent,bills etc but he is the lead tenant on the property and i'm not sure the landlord would take him off and put me on as I'm on a low income