Book for a friend??

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I'm looking to get a book or two for my beautiful friend who is in a abusive relationship. I was looking at Lundy Bancroft why does he do that? But there's all different ones and i could do with knowing the right one?

Inside the minds of angry and controlling men.
That's the Lundy book you want.
Please also point her in the direction of the Womens Aid website
Another one mentioned on here a lot is 'Living with the dominator' by Pat Craven.
Is she ready to face the fact she is being abused?
If she is then a call to Womens Aid would help a lot.
0808 2000 247 - their phone number doesn't show on any bills etc...

Please make sure the cover isn’t to obvious my friends partner flipped when he saw the book cover she was reading about abusive men

I came on to say the same as pickled. Please be very careful what you buy as it's possible you could inadvertently make things worse for her if the abuser gets wind of what she's reading.

Thanks, Iv ordered that. Oh she's on to him alright, very careful around him already. If any other books are known I'm open to suggestions.

Specifically need something that might help with boundaries, gas lighting and trust issues from having a abusive childhood, then having theirs vulnerabilities manipulated my a man in relationship.

You can use decorative duck tape to cover the book and make it look like a journal.

Thanks that's a good idea.

Or just replace with other book cover easy with hard back books

Can she get out one evening a week?
If so then Womens Aid run a course - the Freedom Programme / Project.
That will help her massively with boundaries and spotting red flags.
She can do it online but it's better to attend.

Yes she is doing the freedom project starting soon. She is aware it's not right etc and has come a long way. Just takes time I guess.
Any book recommendations helpful as she is a real bookworm.