AIBU with my DP

[firsttimemum97]

My DS is 3 weeks. I have felt extremely low with myself since he was born and have had frequent suicidal thoughts and thoughts of self harming. My DP doesn't understand my moods and blames me for being this way. When pregnant he would drink all the time, come home late, ask me to ring and text on my way home if i was out(why?) I'd do all the cooking and cleaning, he would do the dishes. He's still smoking weed and still drinking nearly every day even around our baby, he smokes outside but it still bothers me. He had a week off work and spent the whole time playing Xbox and not helping me during the night.
Granted he does change nappies and does the occasional feed during the day but never helps me. He blames any argument we have on me and refuses to let me leave with our son. He's been manipulating me in the past and I'm afraid he's now playing mind games with me.
I'm not happy with him but if I leave he will fight for custody of our son and I don't necessarily want to take our son away from a family life but I'm so unhappy.
What would you do??

I would leave him.
None of this is ok.
None of this is your fault.

He sounds like a fucking man child and abusive to you.

He won't get residency of your child, they all threaten that in order to keep you in line. You and DC deserve so much better than this. It's time to start planning your escape.

leave him even if you don't believe you are worth better at least believe your child is. if he's a drinker and a weed smoker he won't get residence.

Yes, if he hardly looks after your son now, no way will he want the work of doing it much more of the time. This is an empty threat. You can leave.

You can leave.

Please call Womens Aid. 0808 2000 247
They can reassure that he won't get custody of your DS
He's a drunk and a drug addict.
This is abuse and you do NOT have to live with it.
WA can help you with a safe exit plan.
refuses to let me leave with our son.
He can refuse all he likes but you are an adult and a mother.
You need to protect yourself and your DS.
Do you have any family who can support you?

Leave, if you haven't yet registered the birth give serious consideration to whether you put him on the birth certificate, if you fear he might abscond with your child then if he's not on the birth certificate the police have the power to act. It also gives him an extra hoop to jump through as regards custody (although most of these men use it as a means of control through fear rather than genuinely wanting full custody).