I just don't fancy my husband any more

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We've been together for 10 years. We have 2 small children. Since they were born, our sex life (which had always been fantastic) has nose-dived.
He's a good man, supportive partner, great Dad. He's fantastic in every way but I just don't fancy him.

I'm making excuses and when I can force myself, I'm crying after because I feel violated.
I don't want to break up our family but what the hell can I do?
Is it possible to get the passion back?
Any help would be welcome 😔

Does he know/have any idea how you feel? Have you tried counselling? It might be good to speak to someone.

I don't think you should 'force yourself' to have sex with him if you're 'crying' and 'feel violated' afterwards. It will only make the problem worse.

You can try talking to your GP (who could refer you on to your local therapies) or contact Relate ( www.relate.org.uk/ ).

Good Luck!

Do you love him?

For me when it went it went. Lovely guy, best mate but just no feelings towards him. This grew to resentment I hated him touching me or entering my personal space. He went away for a weekend and I just loved being on my own. That decided it for me. I never really fancied him that much to begin with though, has something changed?

Same as Mulch and once it's gone it's gone. I did find him attractive for many years, I think many things between us just put me off him which then in result made me realise I couldn't continue any longer. We were together almost the same time as you, two DC too. I think sometimes you just grow out of people. If the idea of spending forever with him as your only sexual partner for life fills you with dread, then maybe you should really consider your options.