I posted on here in October when my long term partner of 13 years, who I live with and have a house together but the kids are mine from a previous relationship, my daughter lives with us, she is 16 , son just gone to uni. Anyway a couple of months back we had a row, over something and nothing, he made a massive deal of it, at the time it felt weird , that night he moved into the spare room, said it was over , we have had rows before , he often threatens to leave, but goes to bed and we make up the next few days, this time he didn't speak to me , I tried to speak he said his head was all over the place, then I found tooth whitening stuff, odd, he dies do that sort of grooming , anyway the. I found out he was on a dating site, I confronted him, he tried to still say he didn't know what was going on in his head about us, then I dropped the bombshell I knew he had uploaded on the site , he then said yeah I cannot denie it, we talked and split up, after 4 days he said he made a mistake, sorry wanted to work things through, but all the time trying to say it wackos much me as him, maybe that's right, he said he thought I was going to leave him, I have not behaved any differently, I love him, it's all so unexpected. Didn't talk again he kept avoiding me then this weekend again he was trying to patch things up, but when I said about the dating site he said he only replied to message sent to him, like that's ok, he had paid for the subscription, I don't think I can forgive him, he might be going through a mid life crisis , he just turned 50 , I love him but my head says leave, my daughter thinks I can do so much better, she sees how he talks to me and doesn't help round the house , I'm so confused and upset