Hi - i am 37 and a first time mum. I met my husband almost 5 years ago, we got married 2 years ago and sold.our houses and brought a family home last september. We tried to get pregnant for a year and finally managed to conceive in january. I thought we were both excited,l about our first child - we went to antenatal course, two seperate 'babymoon' holidays, decorated nursery together etc. Our baby was breech so at 37 weeks i went to have the baby turned and when we got home he sat me down and told me he doesnt love me anymore, and has feelongs for someone else, and is leaving. Complete and utter devastation and shock followed - he spent a few weeks faffing about and then decided he wanted to stick around and make a go of things etc. He uas never been the same as before, wothdrew all affection, sleeps in spare room - he helps out alot with our daughter and the house but offers no emotional support to me. We were always really close and tactile and spent alot of time together and he made it clear he canr stand to be around me. He gets aggressive if i try to talk about what happned and is very controlling and demeaning in his actions. I think hes a narcisist and have for some time but i never thought he would do this, its like a bad dream. My daughter is 3 months old now and it hasnt got better and makes me so unhappy - so ijave told him i want divorce. Now he is all sorry for self and guilt tripping me - evdn though he has forced the issue. Any tips on how to cope/deal with ? How long does a div9rce take to finalise ?