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[vicbabesxx]

Heyyy guys hope someone can help me. I’ve recently just moved into a flat with my son, I am still with my baby Dad he’s helped me a lot with moving but he’s never here and I’m starteing to feel depressed. I moved in 2 weeks ago and he’s only been here 3 times. He works 25 minutes away and lives 25 minutes away but never wants to come here. Whenever I try and talk to him he always says ‘he we go again’
He chooses to go out with his friends then being with his family
It’s just so hard and I don’t think I can do it anymore I hate being home alone with my 6 month old baby. Me and his dad are both 18
Feeling like this has put me off looking after my baby I don’t ever feel like feeding him changing him it’s just so difficult although I love my son so much.
I just want my boyfriend to stay with me and baby more often instead of going out all the time. He doesn’t treat very well anymore either I just don’t know what to do I really don’t
Please any advice😞😞😞

Talk to your HV and get support for yourself.

Go to your GP.

Have you got friends/family who can give you some company and support?

He just sounds very immature that's all. I don't think there is any malice in it and no doubt he is going to regret this later on in his life. He really is just being immature at the moment.

Congratulations on your baby your son is your forever and true love story so invest all of your time and energy into loving him and you won't regret it!

You boyfriend will see sense eventually. Go to mummy and baby groups and make new like minded friends and get yourself out and about. You won't even notice he's gone.

Yes I have family who support me but I’m so attached to my boyfriend!! Lol it’s so diffuclt!!

Yes he is being immature and I try to make him see that I really who he sees what he’s missing before it’s too late
I have a horrible knife feeling in my chest all the time because of it and knots and feel sick it’s so horrible!!!!

Thanks for replying back to me u guys I really appreitate it

Aw love. That sounds tough. You've been forced into growing up whereas he isn't there yet.

If you're struggling to find the motivation to feed your baby you must make an appointment with your GP asap. Depression can grip you quite quickly if you don't seek help. Is there a weekly drop in clinic with you Health Visitor? Please arrange to see someone this week. How about family and friends? Do they know how you feel? Maybe you have postnatal depression?

In what way does you baby's dad not treat you very well?

I think you've done the right thing in posting here. I'm sure you'll be ok.

Yes I will book an appointment hopefully tomorrow!!! I really just cannot cope anymore I just feel like isolating myself from everyone. I’ve had to come to my parents now and give my son to them and I’m staying here but I’ve just locked my self in my old room and just don’t want anything to do with anything and my boyfriend is never here for me ever he always treats me badly he never says sorry. He disappeared for 2 weeks a couple months ago and since then it’s been horrible. Before my son was born everything was perfect in our reletionship now he’s all focused on going on! I didn’t expect it from him this is why I’m like this now!!!