I have been divorced for 3 years and last summer I reconnected with a past boyfriend of 13 years ago and we both felt a connection. He lives in Spain and we were text messaging on whatsapp for a while, then I went there on holidays and we got involved and decided to try a long distance relationship which I didn't really like the idea.
He also visited me here 3 weeks ago and I was supposed to meet him again now for Christmas when I go there where he lives. But I saw a lot of things about him that I didn't really like or had any idea about him 13 years ago.
Things such as:
- The next morning after the first night I slept at his house he woke up totally focused on his work and rushing me out of the house (he wasn't late for work and he doesn't have fixed working hours either and he skips work all the time to run errands or arriving late). When I asked him if he had anything to eat, he gave me a couple of biscuits and off we go outside. He drove me home and we didn't even have coffee together.
- The whole time I was there on holidays (a week and a half) he never once invited me to go out to have dinner, or anything else. He was just meeting and go to his house, which looks like something else...
- When he visited me here 3 weeks ago, he never once suggested he could cook lunch or dinner, he would put the dirty dishes and cuttlery he used in the sink and wouldn't bother to wash it (sorry I don't have a washing machine), leaving it for me to wash it.
- I picked him up from the airport (which is a 2h drive for me) and he didn't even mentioned to share the gas costs.
When I confronted him with this, he said he did all those things because "he has been living on his own for a long time and no dating..." and also that he didn't notice the dirty dishes because he was "in his head feeling the moment of being in my house"...
Yes right, and I myself feel the moment of washing them! I'm sorry but he could be right of living on his own for a long time, but he does washes his own dishes at his house right!?
I decided to end things and he said that he would like to continue the relationship and have the opportunity to learn from his mistakes and evolve together... I'm sorry pal, not with me. I want other type of man in my life. One that is not self-centred and egotistical and genuinely cares for me.
I'm sorry guys, I think I am quite pis* by this and just need some advice. Thank you. 