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I think I wanna leave

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Mrsknackered · 11/12/2017 19:44

He turned all of his notifications off on his phone, I didn't realise until yesterday evening as I text him whilst we were sitting next to each other and it made the noise but nothing flashed up on the screen.
Nearly 2 years ago I found out that he had cheated 9 months before (does that make sense). I left with DS1 and then two days later found out I was pregnant again, over time we worked on things etc. I do believe I recovered from it, but was a little wary of noticing changes in behaviour.
He is being treated for depression ATM also, and hasn't been doing to well.
I managed to get on his phone earlier and when he went out a few Friday's ago he's messaged a girl he works with at 3.30am saying 'where are you?' But there was either no reply or he's deleted it, because he's then said 'Alright'
I don't know when he came in that night because I was fast asleep, but he was back by 6.30 when I got up with the children.
I just confronted him, he's giving me silent treatment and 'doesn't know what I'm talking about' and even if he did wouldn't tell me because 'I shouldn't of been snooping' I've left with a few things in my bag and I'm standing at a bus stop. Not sure if I should go home and have the inevitable screaming match or camp out on a friends sofa :(
Sorry if none of this makes sense

OP posts:
Tstar27 · 11/12/2017 19:56

I'm so sorry that is terrible. Tonight is not a night to be standing at a bus stop. Are your kids with you?

If I were you I would go home, ignore him, sleep in a different room and think your plan through calmly.

Are you married? Do you own or rent? If you want to leave him then you need to think this through calmly.

NotTheFordType · 11/12/2017 20:12

It sounds like you want to leave but feel like you need a justification to do so.

You don't need any reason other than "this relationship isn't making me happy."

Mrsknackered · 11/12/2017 20:45

I'm at a friends now, she's out but has let me in. We're not married and it's rented, I'm on the tenancy but he pays rent (im a student) he's been signed off work recently though so money is very tight.
Children are at home in bed. I'm not going to return tonight because I can't keep calm I don't think. I'm so angry and I don't want to fight and wake the DC :(
I support him so much and feel like there is never any support for myself, I'm just left to get on with everything.
I know I don't have to be with him, but I have absolutely no idea how to leave, and if this is going to get better maybe it would be just shooting myself in the foot. I love him a lot, but not sure if I can keep on like this.

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Fishface77 · 12/12/2017 00:19

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