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To be worrying about abusive ExP

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Choccywoccydoo10 · 11/12/2017 10:15

So my ex was emotionally/mentally/financially abusive to me. I was in a refuge for 5 months last year from December to April. They didn't really give me much help as they said j was independent and my case wasn't as serious as all the other women in there. I talked myself around I think to believe it wasn't as bad but then I had PND but not sure if it was down to him or me.

Anyway today I went to the health clinic to get a coil fitted. The doctor asked me alot of questions. One being have you ever been scared of an ex. Thought it was an odd question so I said yes and she said was this your D'S dad so I said yes. Then she asked if my DS was at risk of being emotionally abused. I said no he loves him and wouldn't to him. She said well it can happen to the children too. And then she said she thinks she that someone should know. I told her my old GP knew and my old HV.

Now she has me questioning weather he would emotionally or mentally abuse him. He has always adored him, wants to have him and couldn't show love to me or his family but could towards our D'S. He would do anything for him I think. Or am I being naive??

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Shoxfordian · 11/12/2017 10:19

Yes potentially you are being naive

Abusive men can be abusive emotionally to children as well as adults and he has already shown you what he's like with his behaviour towards you.

What are your contact arrangements?

Choccywoccydoo10 · 11/12/2017 11:23

He has him 5 nights In 2 weeks. So it's every other weekend, 1 week night one week and 2 week nights the other. I haven't had concerns before but now I'm a bit worried

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Choccywoccydoo10 · 11/12/2017 13:08

Bump

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Shoxfordian · 11/12/2017 20:58

How old is your child? Does he seem happy when he's been with his Dad?

Choccywoccydoo10 · 11/12/2017 21:54

He's 17 months. Yea he does seem to be. But then he can't tell me anything.

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