My DH is so miserable

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It is grinding me down.

He says FUCK about ten times a day. He constantly trips over the dogs, and tells them to fuck off. Sometimes kicks them.

Everything I do seems to be wrong. As it's cold now, he has a thing about doors being open, so when we walk the dogs in the morning, as soon as he is in the garden, he shouts "COME ON" at me, whilst I hurry to leave.

Tonight, I asked him what he would love to see under the tree on Christmas morning. He said " I dunno , what about you". I said a gift that I'd asked him for (that was £16). He moaned that was something I'd told him about after he'd completed shopping. Despite the fact that he gave me a gift idea at £50 after I'd finished, but I just bought it anyway.

I didn't speak after that. So we watched telly in silence for 2 hours. Until I left and came to bed in my sons room (he's at Uni, so not here)

He's not bothered to see where I am.

He doesn't care, does he?

My OH had a phase like that when he had a stressful journey for work. I told him once that, ‘ it was like living with a death eater from the Harry Potter films.’ His mood sucked the very life out the home. The worse thing was, that his mood changed instantly if others were around.

You don’t have to put up with being a whipping boy for someone’s bad moods. I think I put up with it for so long, before I spoke up, that he really did not think he was as bad as I said.

If he’s not normally like this then somethings wrong. Swallow your anger and hurt. Make him a cup of tea and just say this isn’t like you what’s up. Then listen rather than get upset. People verbally lash out when defensive, hurt, stressed etc. If you respond in kind it’s more likely to spiral than resolve.

My SO is incredibly sweet and kind 99% of the time. A few months back he had a day where he snapped at me and was pretty bloody rude. It’s not like him though. I made him tea, sorted things out then basically just cuddled him till he was ready to talk. He never said what was wrong that night until a month later when he said he felt overwhelmed and like he just wanted to run and hide.

Sometimes people just need a cuddle blanket burrito and knowing they aren’t alone/are loved.

I’m giving the benefit of the doubt as you say he’s not normally like that by the way but if it was me I’d also tell him that if he kicks my dog again I’ll castrate him 😉

It's very telling that your reply to the previous posters completely ignored the fact your husband abuses animals.
Whether you stay in the relationship or not, it is completely indefensible to allow him to treat your dogs like that.
If you don't want to leave him that's fine. But rehome your dog for gods sake.

If anyone kicked my dog I would fucking leather the c*nt.

What exactly do you love about this man?

Whatever the reasons, this isnt acceptable and it must be soul destroying for you.

Do you realise that there might be a man or indeed a woman who would love to share,enjoy and experience things with you rather than come along like Scrooge plunging a big funnel over the light of hope from the ghost of Christmas past,extinguishing all hope and chance of joy?

Life is too short,deal with it..

PS plays games all day on his day off ?? Oh please....most women would kick his arse for that..