Midlife crisis or being a c u next Tuesday

[Louiseandhercubs]

So a few days ago I posted about my ex/partner suffering what appeared to be a midlife crisis.....however, as of yesterday it's become apparent that he's now "talking/meeting" someone else. He's adamant he's single tho.

I have my suspicions that this could have started before he left, however I can't be 100% sure as I have nothing to go off but now I know who it is, little things make sense. I'm VERY hurt by this, but he doesn't seem to care at all. I've also found out I am in the early stages of pregnancy. Since my ex/partner has been gone he has now let my children down on three occasions to be with this woman. I have messaged this woman and told her all of this.

It's very hard because should he come back, I'm certain I would take him back. I'd like to say I wouldn't tho.

My question is, is there a way for me to find out if this woman is part of a MLC & what do I do about him letting down our children? I told him yesterday I was pregnant and apart from 2/3 texts last night. I haven't heard from him since. Nothing today!

He's having an ongoing affair. It stsrted before he left. He doesn't give a shiny shit about you.

You don't realise this ?

It is hard. But please don't waste your energy wondering if its a MLC or not. That way madness lies. Please concentrate on life for you and your children at the moment. I wouldn't tell them he was coming if he is likely to let them down, and if he appears, its a bonus for them.

OP, he doesn’t give a shiny shit about you

Why does it matter if it’s a mid life crisis? Being a shit is being a shit, the age of the man at the time is irrelevant. He doesn’t care about you or your feelings and that’s not going to change. You need to make a decision about your pregnancy and then start putting your future back together.

He's had an affair and is now probably wanting to shag about that's why he's saying he's single. I wouldn't waste my time if I were you. I think you're grasping at straws trying to make excuses for his shitty behaviour with wondering if he's having a MLC.

Why are you letting yourself be treated that way.

Well, that certainly explains his hang dog ‘i’m Not happy’ stuff.

I’m sorry to read this development.

You need to find your anger now.

I hope you will now stop feeling worried about his mental health and telling him to leave.

Well the thing is, I can't say I suspected anything before he left. He never gave me any reason to doubt him until yesterday (three weeks after he left)

I did say I needed to avoid him, because stress isn't good for a pregnant woman. I'm probably only a few weeks pregnant but I would have still expected some texts.

You may not have suspected until now but it certainly explains a lot about his behaviour.

Now you need to push forward with the things that were mentioned on the other thread - financial separation, boundaries between you and him and pushing him to commit to the DC.

Is this the one next door at his mothers while everyone tiptoes round him?

In a nicest possible way don't think its a bgood idea to have 4th baby with him..