What is the most suprising fact you have learned about someone you were with/fancied

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And did it change things between you two

I learned that he was homeschooled , nothing too major

that he didn't like people & was a control freak.
(my family thought he was charmingly sociable & laid back)

He would never say no to anyone in his family over anything. Would drive his ds 3 streets away to Work because “its easier than saying no”. Nice guy, but zero ability to hold boundaries with regard to other people walking on them.

😂😂😂 sheep in the bedroom

I also thought that somebody's DH had taken a farm animal into the marital bed. Not that the stories aren't shocking enough!!

So sorry ladies - that will teach me to respond in a rush 😂

In fairness it might teach me to read a bit better too 😂

Now I really want to know what happened when insomnibrat found the photos!

That he had voted Conservative, "Because there was no alternative."

And yes, it did change things between us. It was just like the bit at the start of Bridget Jones: the Edge of Reason (book, not film).

Someone I know found out that his wife and mother of his kids voted Tory. At a dinner party. And he's most left wing person I know. That didn't end well.

Oh Christ almighty I'm in pain from laughing... Only just come back onto this thread now. Why can I hear Baa'ing in my head?! 😫🤦🏼‍♀️ Have visions of some bloke trying to shoo a Sheep up the stairs

Also, thanks Tammy. She's absolutely fine now, despite some leftover abandonment issues and the hatred of ANYONE leaving the house. Even the Meter Man or Takeaway delivery driver!

She doesn't see her Dad anymore and he has never ever been left alone again ever since it happened. I found her, called Police and he got an Adult Caution for Child Neglect.

Bought walk of shame and the gold mascara earlier. Hope good. Salesforce glossy posse

Wrong thread sorry.

After years of being together I found out he was still married (had told me he was divorced) and had been lying about his intention to buy a house with me (viewed about 8 properties, always an excuse, clearly couldn't buy one with me given he was still married and (probably) owns a house with the wife and had years of bad debt and avoiding being on electoral registers so they couldn't catch up with him. Basically he was a con-artist and a cocklodger looking for free accommodation from me.

An army boyfriend I had in my later teenage years.

We ‘dated’ for about two years. He stayed at my house, met my parents etc. Obviously he was away a lot but I figured that was normal.As far as I knew he was a young, single, army engineer.

The one day came home crying, he’d found out that his wife (who he insisted at that moment he was separated from) was pregnant. Again. But he was sure our life was strong enough for me to forgive and help him through it.

Threw that tosser out still crying. Felt awful and guilty about it for months, I didn’t know about the wife but the thought of what I’d been doing made me feel sick.

That despite putting up a front of being v cool aloof and laid back...

He actually frets horrifically about the people he loves.

E.g. as a six year old became almost paralyzed with worry that his parents would be fired for going on strike

Also he buys people useful gifts in order to allay his fears about something happening to them

E.g. first aid kits, expensive GPS/compasses/maps, upgraded sports kit or professional coaching, warmer coats, mobility aids, flights to prevent road travel...

He is lovely
It's interesting the vulnerabilities that people conceal, sometimes even from themselves.