My ex is playing mind games

[Sarahkate1792]

I’ve done everything I could to keep my boyfriend happy this past year and half, but he’s treated me like rubbish however I can’t help loving him
We broke up a few weeks ago but we’ve been in contact by email because he’s blocked my number however he’s asking for us to try again but won’t unblock my number? Also he’s wanting to go to Australia for a month next March on his own and maybe get a works visa for a year why doesn’t he be single?
I would love to go to Australia with him for a holiday but he won’t even consider it also I can only go for 2 weeks and I have two 8 month old Dalmatians which are my ex’s as well even though he hasn’t done anything for them or paid for them since we got them at 8 weeks.
I love him so much that I don’t want to let go but I would love peoples opinion or experiences. He is / was a cocaine user I don’t know if he still is. I hate drugs but he came to me for help and support beginning last year as I’d known him for 6 years then but on and off talking. I’ve done everything I can to keep him happy and get better but whenever I need anything he turns it around
I don’t know what to do? I don’t understand why I have to email him instead of him unblocking my number to talk.
Advise would be great? I’m 25 and I just want to be treated right by a guy for a change

it doesn't sound like a great relationship and you shouldn't spend all your time trying to make him happy or trying to do the right thing for him. was the cocaine use a problem? my ex used it all the time and I too spent all my time trying to please him and not make him angry etc.

why did you two break up? if there's a reason you broke up then you shouldn't be together

May be he wants to take some revenge on you for some reason. Stay away! Dont go.

Cocaine was one of the problems he used to go missing for a couple of days I ended up looking for him every time. We broke up because he didn’t know whether he loved me and our two dogs were too hard work for him, we were a burden to him as he couldn’t do his hobbies supposedly.

This happened to my sister but it was because he had started seeing someone else so didn't want my sister calling him incase he got caught out so only called her but made it so she couldn't call him by keeping her number blocked.

I’ve asked him why won’t unblock me to talk and asked him if there is another girl involved and he just said there isn’t another girl involved stop banging on about it. But he’s all of a sudden back on Facebook and snapchat which he wasn’t whilst he was staying off the drugs. Why Is love so tough at Times
Sorry I sound so pathetic I just needed to get stuff of my chest and advise I just want to be treated right

you don't sound pathetic and he sounds nasty. I know it's hard and it's very easier for us to tell you to stay away from him when it's not as simple as that but he sounds horrible, you don't deserve to be treated like that talk

The first rule of being ‘treated right’ is to stop accepting people’s bullshit. You weren’t helping him, you were sucked in by a manipulative arse because he knew you were kind and probably had extremely poor boundaries which he could easily exploit. He gets some sort of perverse pleasure of treating you light crap and watching while you beg for any crumbs he’s willing to throw your way.

You are not pathetic but you are behaving pathetically.

You’re asking the wrong questions, it isn’t ‘why he does he *insert any shitty behaviour’? The question you should be asking and the only question you have any realistic chance of answering is, ‘why do I put up with behaviours that hurt me’?

Block him and stop colluding with him to destroy what’s left of your self respect.

You’re right I don’t deserve to be treated like this. I’ve deleted my email address he send emails on and I’ve blocked his number again. I need to be stronger and know my worth, I need to keep telling myself that there are better guys out there and I will be treated right by someone. I feel daft now that I asked the question on here but just seeing your comments has helped me. I don’t think I’d ever be able to trust him anymore as he’s back talking to guys from an area he did drugs, he always going to use one day. Can’t beliece how stupid I am for giving so many chances after
Everything he’s done to me

Don't feel daft for posting! most of us posting here have found difficulties ending a shit relationship. Yes, you can do so much better. Chances are he's seeing someone else too (blocking your number}. Onwards and upwards!

He used to block my number after arguments so I’m used to it. Anyway like you say onwards and upwards, I’ve changed my email address now so he can’t email me, I’m on with changing my number and then I’ve decided with my parents permission to move back home in the new year so he doesn’t turn up at this house ever. But he does know where my parents live so he could turn up there but we won’t be living there after February as they’ve sorted the house so he won’t be able to contact me or find me fingers crossed. Me and my girls deserve to be treated better positive thinking from now on. Didn’t realise how much these forums do help asking advise from people from the outside 😊 thank you all.

Stay strong. If his intentions were positive you would not be questioning them.

Good luck

The only way this guy can carry on treating you so bad is if you carry on letting him.
Stop engaging with him.
He's a nasty piece of work and he is abusive.
Please take back your life and start a new life for yourself and your girls.

He is a druggie, he is playing mind games, he treats you like shit, he blocked your number, he wants to go to the back of beyond but doesn't want to take you with him, you can't count on him..... did I leave something out?
Some women have the words I am a doormat, treat me like shit written on their forehead.

The fact that he wanted dogs and got Some, then refused to look after them practically or financially because they were "hard work" says it all really, before you get started on the drugs, commitment phobia and generally being a selfish cunt.
Get rid for good and start life afresh. Rehome the dogs if you don't want to keep them for him indefinitely.

Thank you for the Home truths , you’re all right. I am stupid for asking the question. I have been a mug and he’s taking advantage of it. He had intentions of ruining my life as before him my life was fantastic. I will not get rid of my girls they’re my life and I will do anything for them, they’re my babies. I wouldn’t change that just wish I could turn back time in some other things but hey ho you live and learn in life and I am certainly learning from it 😊. Like I said I am changing all my contact details and moving so fresh start in the new year 😊.

Walking the dogs might help you meet someone who sees your worth

My mum said that, but at the moment as I’m really doing some intense training with them as my goal is to show them and also do agility I have to walk them seperately so I’m getting 3 - 4 hours walking in a day. So you never know in that time I’ll meet someone lol. Positive thinking 😁! At least it’s keeping me fit and in shape but then again it’s make me lose a lot of weight as gone through a lot of stress with my ex. Thank you for listening and reading my thread though I really appreciate it