I don’t even know where to begin or how I’ve found myself writing on here but I think that I’m asking total strangers for advice says a lot in itself.
Me and my partner have had a struggling relationship since having my little girl, but my little girl is 7 months old now and surely things should be getting better by now?
I’m a 23 year old who has put her life into one man, I have moved 30 miles away from my family to live near his and I have also invested £15,000 of my inheritance into a house over here. Stupidity or love? I’m starting to doubt my decision.
The cherry on top of the cake was yesterday. I’ve not been well the past couple of days and finally got the last little bit of energy in me and dragged myself to the doctors. I was diagnosed with mild pneumonia. I was prescribed a course of strong antibiotics, an inhaler and I wasn’t allowed to be around my daughter for 24-48 hours. My lovely mother in law stepped in and looked after my little girl, I don’t even think if I was allowed to have my daughter I could, I was that weak I couldn’t even make it to the toilet for a wee. So this is the part I can’t get my head around my OT still decided to go ahead with his night out rather than a) look after his little girl or b) look after me. I didn’t say anything to him because I just didn’t have the energy but I was so upset. He stayed at his mums so he could get up with our daughter and look after her the next day but low and behold he got up gave her a bottle then went back to bed because he didn’t get a good night sleep aka “hungover”. Not one point did he think to come and check on me and make sure I was okay. This man is supposed to be my forever. This man is the person I’m supposed to marry in the future.
As mentioned before this is just the cherry on top of the cake, I’ve already previously had to deal with him messaging another girl, coming in at midnight when he said he would be in at 5pm, he goes to play pool every Tuesday night and football every Sunday morning/afternoon on top of a weekly night out and the list goes on and on.
What do I do? Am I being over sensitive? Should I let it go? I have threatened to leave so many times before and his response now is “you’ll be back in a couple days”.
He blames my postnatal depression on everything but I’m on tablets and really feel like my postnatal depression is under control, whenever we have an arguement he always blames my depression as though I’m not allowed to have feelings and he also calls me a “nutter” or “psycho” on numerous occasions.
So the question is should I stay or should I go?!