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Feel like I can't talk to him

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ginandlimonade · 09/12/2017 15:50

I feel like every time I try to have a proper conversation with dh about anything I end up upset and frustrated.

Christmas can be a bit hard for me, and I felt like I didn't really enjoy it last year very much. I've been really trying this year but dh keeps insisting we all go to these expensive and a lot of the time really unsuitable - like seeing the lights switched on in the city centre which was an hour away and the kids were too small to see anything anyway and then DH put our 3 year old on his shoulders and got into an argument with the people behind us. He keeps wanting us to all sit and watch Christmas films as a family which is nice in theory but the children are only little and get bored and want to wander off and play and he shouts at them and then I try to stick up for them and he shouts at me, and then blames us all for ruining Christmas.

I don't even know why I'm posting. I feel very alone yet pressured to be perfect.

OP posts:
Cambionome · 09/12/2017 17:23

I don't really know what to say about this - it seems very odd that he just doesn't realise that the children are too young to enjoy these things. Confused

Is it that he has got the idea of a perfect Christmas in his head, and he doesn't understand that real life isn't like this with very young children?

The shouting at you and the children really isn't acceptable. Can you sit him down and have a really clear and calm conversation about how his behaviour is upsetting you?

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