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[GameChanger01]

If a guy says he is "tight" quite early on does that worry you? What if you knew he was on a very high salary because of his profession... think 80-100k+... could it be because I am similar profession just not at as high a level yet but will be in near future

Secondly, we used to date but now just friends but we text each other occasionally meet up for coffee and last Friday we went for drinks with friends... he got very tipsy and kept talking about sex/penis related jokes with me, was extremely "touchy feely" like touching my back and helping me carry drinks, complimenting me a lot saying I need to be more confident and that there is alot to be confident about, also going on about how he has just turned 38 and needs to settle.

Strange thing is he stil frequents dating sites but I'm like maybe we should just start dating again... feel he wants a relationship hence why he keeps getting in touch but is not emotionally available.

A tight bloke is one of the worst things ever. Every meal split by what you had, being told you can't turn up the heating, forensic analysis of the shopping bill. Fuck all that.

Steer clear.

He's bloody horrible! I wouldn't sit next to him on a bus never mind be in a romantic relationship with him.

I don't think he is horrible but yes very concerned by the being tight". I suspect this is his stumbling block and why he is still single.

Any more stories on those dating/married/in relationships with tight men especially if they are "high" earners.

"Tight" definition: "You will never have access to any of my resources. I will never marry. I will scrutinise every expenditure you ever make."

Also, beware those who are overly generous.

I find this highly unattractive and that rigid control over 'his' money (lack of generousness') often extends to other elements of personality. Tread carefully

My ex was tight with money. He was the kind of man who'd ask for a fiver back, if he'd lent it to you. Note the 'ex'. The row that broke us up was about money. It wears you down, and it's a very unsexy quality. I think it was Julie Burchill who said it was the spiritual equivalent of halitosis

Someone who’s mean (by that I mean tight) is normally mean with everything else in their life..time/emotions etc.

I would steer clear of any romantic involvement, even though you don’t appear to ‘need’ his money.

Tight people in general make me shudder

Thanks for the replies I think he even may have said one of the reasons he was interested is because I don't really need him and am "self sufficient" career/job wise as well as looks of course

My ex was tight. I am self sufficient. We lived together for years. It was hellish. Every single thing in the supermarket was scrutinised and googled to see if it was cheaper elsewhere. He would go for meals out unless he had a voucher. He didn’t pay his share of the household bills. I paid for everything for the house (carpets etc). He would come on family functions and never ever buy a round or go to the bar. I used to give him my money to look after in his wallets before nights out so it looked as though he was paying. It was totally embarrassing and massively unattractive. Just vile. He earned more than me by quite some way. I’ve never had so much disposable cash since I left

I’m also self sufficient, although I’m on the lower end of it. My partner and I go out with vouchers or to cheap places, but that’s at my insistence. We laugh about it.

If he earned a fabulous salary and he still tried to save a few bob, I’d dump his sorry arse. My partner is thrifty, like me, because we have to be, nothing to do with meanness.

Mean with money, mean with love.

That's a common saying for a reason.

totally agree with rabbit

Men who are tight with money are selfish in other ways.

I would steer well clear.