I am a fool

[cocoface]

I have been dating a guy fairly seriously since the end of last summer. He can.be incredibly lovely but also incredibly angry snappy etc. He works and studies so I fit around that and try to help and understand.

I told him I was feeling very down and depressed - he was very snappy with me last night over something trivial but really it was - i think - down to my good relationship with my dc father which seems to infuriate him. Mainly the fact that dc dad is allowed into my home - which I feel is healthy for the children.

So he was sharp over something small and that - as well as his general anger just made me feel horrible. He was very blasé about it - told me to either tell him what was wrong or say nothing!

We had a few messages back and forth with him bascally telling me he won't know if I'm down ubless I tell him. He then tells me that he is off to visit with his family talk tomorrow if I feel up to it after he has finished work.

I sent 2 further messages which he hasnt bothered to read - has met up with his family and basically ignored me! I think I should leave this relationship so why don't I? - he is snappy mood swings and apparently selfish. Why don't I just leave?

I used to analyze the behaviour of whichever arsehole I was with at the time. My counsellor always put the emphasis back on ME whenever I started up with 'but why is he doing that' or whatever, and asked how I felt. He is not a nice person interspersed with bouts of being nice, in my opinion. Anyone who headfucks you this early in a relationship (6 months?) or any time really doesn't deserve you. Free yourself of him and find someone who treats you well ALL the time.
You probably won't listen to me as I wouldn't have back in the day, but hey ho worth a try.

Ugh, it's one tactic. Run away, fast.

Just send him a text saying 'This relationship isn't working for me, we're done.'

You don't have to explain anything but if you want to, you could also say 'I feel like I have to walk on egg-shells around you because of your temper. You are not supportive. And I deserve better.'

It's done. I'm not talking to him yet though in case I weaken. It's the attitude of him that is enraging me. He hasnt the backbone to tell me he didn't want to be in the relationship. Well he has his wish - I'm gone!

Well done, OP!

PS: You are not an idiot.

(It took me years to wisen up that my ex was an abusive arsehole.)

Well done. You don't need to talk to him again though. Just a message telling him it's done and not to contact you again then block.

I wouldn't usually encourage someone to dump by text but it's the only way with men like this. I had to do it after a 6 year relationship.

I honestly can't contact him in any way yet. I dont feel strongly enough.