My dd has major anxiety issues due to severe bullying a year ago. She takes beta blockers before school and is waiting to have her assessment with Camhs.
Her confidence is very low and she has given up friends and hobbies.
Preferring to see her boyfriend or stay in her bedroom.
She told me her boyfriend doesn’t like her talking to certain friends at school that are boys.
He will check her phone and get really annoyed if she doesn’t answer FaceTime or calls and will keep ringing until she answers.
He has an issue with her getting a piggy back from another boy about 5 months ago and brings it up as if she has cheated.
She can only see him outside school with our help because of a lack of public transport.
We have spoken often about respect in a relationship and how it’s very important that she maintains her other relationships with friends.
I’ve told her she is adjusting her behaviour so she doesn’t annoy him.
She was upset on Monday night ( not for the first time about his jealousy/ controlling issues)
I said I will no longer take her to see him outside school and have asked if I can speak to him if his mum is ok with that.
I have met his mum a few times and had a chat.
She is now minimising his behaviour and not speaking to us.
It’s so upsetting.
It’s my job to protect her. She has enough issues without isolating herself even more.
Should I try speak to his mum to ask if it’s ok to talk to him?